But I want it so badly! All i need to figure out is:

reverse proxys (I stumbled through getting one caddy instance setup so far but gosh I struggle with that also, nginx proxy manager seems like my next step)

a rock solid backup/restore setup (but first I need to figure out where the vaultwarden alpine files live, then be able to get those off of the proxmox vm)

this is more of a vent, than a request for someone to spell it all out for me. But I wouldn’t be upset if anyone had the time to point me in the right direction for me.

Would it just be easier to run a keypass XC and syncthing setup?