Yeah. Getting stood up is part of the online dating scene now. I’m a woman and have been stood up enough that I don’t agree to meet anybody in a place I wouldn’t want to go to by myself anyway, and don’t put any more effort into my appearance than I would have anyway.

I found a bar that has a club night in a theme that works for me, and showing up and hanging out there has been a far more efficient use of time in terms of getting dates.

I feel like people on sites are looking for reasons to say no, people who have already put in the effort to be somewhere are looking for reasons to say yes. Just a totally different vibe.