All of my IRL friendships are based around activities - we play games together, we volunteer together, etc. When someone moves away and we try to keep the friendship going, it always just sputters out after a few weeks or months. It just seems to devolve into small-talk / catch-ups that neither of us are really interested in (I don’t mind small-talk too much, but it can’t be 100% of any meaningful relationship).

So: What is the point of a long-distance friendship for two people who have no plans to live locally again? What am I missing?

EDIT: I have close conversations in person that are deep and meaningful, just very rarely over text. Maybe I ought to phone or video call once in a while…

  • GBU_28@lemm.eeEnglish
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    3 hours ago

    I guess the friendships I keep are ok being “at rest” and just a few texts a month or more. What’s nice is when you travel for some other reason, you can visit your old friend and catch up. It’s a nice feeling to say “oh I know someone in xyz. That’s nearby abc, I’ll hit them up for a beer”