• Orbituary@lemmy.world
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    6 days ago

    I was/am instinctually driven to want them (a feeling I mostly disregard), but given the state of the world and my own financial situation, I can’t say that I want to force any intelligent being, especially one that is my offspring, to suffer through a lifetime of this shit like I have been forced to so far.

    This is interesting to me, as I’ve never had the biological urge to have kids. I love them and enjoy hanging out with them, joking, playing, etc., but never my own. In any case, I commend you on being resolute.

    I’m currently in a long term relationship, and we’re planning on signing the papers next year, so soon I’ll have someone I can legitimately call my wife. She is very much on the side of “never have kids”. So that’s my decision as well.

    My girlfriend doesn’t want them either. She’s a good deal younger than me - 31 years old - but she says something similar to me: raising kids in this world would be a tragedy.

    Frankly, I’ve always felt there are too many humans. I never understood the push for more. Just maintain or reduce the population naturally.

    Good luck staving off that biological imperative. I feel lucky not to have it myself.

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      6 days ago

      It’s not difficult for me, to say the feeling isn’t felt very strongly, would probably be an understatement.

      The other comment I want to make is that I agree that there’s too many humans, however, the economy survives by constant growth, so that’s a thing. It has to do with how money works and is valuated.

      The video “money as debt” is a good resource for more info on that.

      Bluntly, I don’t care since I’ll be long dead when the economy collapses under it’s own weight.

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      6 days ago

      You could adopt a kid. And give them a home. That is 1 option.

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        6 days ago

        I considered that and it was part of my early stands: IF i had a kid, I would adopt since there are so many without parents.

        Just like Millenials and Gen Zs, my life is hard enough to pay for financially. I don’t know that I could provide something positive for a child. I need to be honest with myself about this shit.