Hi, everyone. I really need to vent. I don't expect anybody to actually read this whole thing, but if you do I'd love it if you could share your thoughts with me....
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Not me. I walked out. The worst part is, I’m still expected to go subject myself to this psychological torture again and again, every time somebody I love dies or gets married or has a baby. Those moments which should be the most important to us, the saddest and the happiest, misappropriated by mystical thugs for the sake of extorting protection money from the people.
Just don’t enter the church or chapel. When asked why, be completely honest: you have suffered in other occasions from having to sit in to listen to a priest taking advantage of the death of a beloved being to praise his own organization, and you do not want to take part in that. This attitude will be understood as rebellious, misguided and disrespectful. It is also the first stone for others to start questioning why they want a priest to give a speech whenever someone dies at all.
I went this time, because I was expected to and it’d make some of my relatives (my grandma especially) sad if I didn’t, but now I think you’re right. I can make myself miserable to appease others, or I can not subject myself to this farce and they’ll have to learn to respect it. If they actually respect me to begin with, it shouldn’t be too hard for them. Thank you for putting it so clearly.
Remember that you can do mourning in different ways. Even if you don’t attend the rite most people will, you can ask someone (such as your grandma) to take a walk through the cementery, or wherever the ashes were thrown. That’s also a form of mourning.
Just don’t enter the church or chapel. When asked why, be completely honest: you have suffered in other occasions from having to sit in to listen to a priest taking advantage of the death of a beloved being to praise his own organization, and you do not want to take part in that. This attitude will be understood as rebellious, misguided and disrespectful. It is also the first stone for others to start questioning why they want a priest to give a speech whenever someone dies at all.
I went this time, because I was expected to and it’d make some of my relatives (my grandma especially) sad if I didn’t, but now I think you’re right. I can make myself miserable to appease others, or I can not subject myself to this farce and they’ll have to learn to respect it. If they actually respect me to begin with, it shouldn’t be too hard for them. Thank you for putting it so clearly.
Remember that you can do mourning in different ways. Even if you don’t attend the rite most people will, you can ask someone (such as your grandma) to take a walk through the cementery, or wherever the ashes were thrown. That’s also a form of mourning.