and what for?
I don’t understand the theatrics involved and being brutally honest, once I’ve decided a workplace is not a good fit I don’t give a f*ck about it and put all my energies into transitioning to the new job.
Even if I may find the same sh*t at my new workplace, things cannot stand as they are now and I have to move on. I have to leave.
I don’t believe any rational person would act differently.
People happy with their jobs don’t go job hunting or interviewing. It’s always the unhappy ones, the unfulfilled ones the ones that yearn for change, for something different the ones looking. It could be your micromanaging manager, it could be coworkers playing favorites or doing several 20 minute smoking pauses plus their regular 30 minute one…
Why pretend everything’s sweet and dandy at the current workplace? It’s ridiculous.
I’m now at a situation were I don’t care about burning bridges and calling a spade a spade if they ask why I’m leaving (my coworkers are petty, childish, lazy, don’t see that I’m constantly working while they talk about stupid issues and still need my help to finish their job), I work more than them and they still have an attitude with me.
If I leave my current workplace, chances are I won’t come back nor work with my coworkers in the future. And even if I had to work with any of them in the future, why would I want to suffer that again? I’d reject that offer.
I value being sincere and while I could play the stupid game and claim I’ll call them or hope our paths cross again (dear god, no) fully knowing that’s a lie, I’d rather be direct and leave no looking back.
Even if you play theatrics because you think it’s the only way to survive because you need the money, doesn’t that mess with your mind, constantly having to suffer people you despise? I couldn’t do it. My mental health is more important than playing stupid games (just my 0.02$).
I won’t burn them theatrically but I’ll let ones I don’t particularly want to keep around quietly just fall into disuse. The bridge is still there but Id have no intention to reaching out across it any time soon. Once in a while people do change over time, sometimes they mellow out or realize they fucked up. A disused bridge is easier just easier to deal with than a burned bridge.
Good bridges aren’t about pretending things are sweet and dandy, good bridges are honest communication and connection, burning them means passing people off on the other end and pissed people are more likely to retaliate. People who feel mostly neutral or a bit annoyed don’t retaliate.
When you leave, wherever you’re working be honest but professional. Say you felt your coworkers didn’t value your time and work you did and at times their unprofessional behavior impacted your ability to work. Don’t name names, don’t finger point, but be honest with what dissatisfied you. If you have an at least neutral professional relationship with your manager maybe they could be a reference for future employers.