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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/pixieorfae on 2023-06-21 12:16:53+00:00.

My (18F) family and I went out for a meal the other day, as we are staying with my Grandma and Uncle, neither of whom have any desire or ability to cook. Since we had been traveling in the car all day for about six hours to get to where they live, a notoriously uncomfortable activity, I pulled on a simple comfortable t-shirt and a pair of leggings to meet them at the restaurant, as well as a hoodie to wear since it was raining (for context the restaurant we were meeting them at was Wetherspoons. Hardly fine dining and a t-shirt and leggings is 100% appropriate attire at face value).

When we had finished saying hello and everything and sat down, I took my hoodie off. My uncle looked at my t-shirt and immediately hissed at me asking what I was thinking wearing a t-shirt like that in public and to go back to the hotel and change. I refused because I didn’t want to walk all the way back to the hotel in a thunderstorm just to change my t-shirt (the hotel is about a five minute walk away but I didn’t want to delay people getting their food for fifteen minutes while I walked there, changed and came back, and also it was raining cats and dogs).

The t-shirt in question has a joking picture of the cover one of those vintage kids books published by ladybug in the 50s. It says ‘Activities for children: Let’s summon demons’ and what looks to be some kind of satanic ritual happening in the middle. It’s by an artist called Steven Rhodes who makes a lot of similar t-shirts and it’s the first one that comes up if you Google ‘Let’s summon demons t-shirt’.

My uncle is very religious (Hare-Krishna) and refused to speak to me for the rest of the evening after telling me the t-shirt was extremely inappropriate for someone my age to be wearing anyway. Honestly that was fine by me as all he actually talks about is his religion anyway so I just played hangman with my sister on the back of a kids menu until our food arrived lol.

After we left my dad said I really should just have gone back to change my t-shirt, and now he’s getting shit from my uncle for allowing me to wear the t-shirt in the first place. I hate to see my dad stressed and it really was only a short walk back to the hotel to change. From my POV I really don’t think the t-shirt is even that offensive however I totally recognise that I might have been the asshole for being stubborn rather than just changing. My uncle is still refusing to speak to me and I’m wondering if I should have just caved. Am I the asshole?