The dink lifestyle is indeed pretty great but has its own problems. At least with kids when you ask “what is the point of it all” you can look at your kids and think your life has meaning. Dink’s don’t get that though, and after a while routine sets in and things get boring and couples start looking elsewhere for meaning and purpose.
11 years isn’t really that long, though is longer than average. There are exceptions to every rule and if you’re someone who enjoys lifelong monogomy and your partner is on board then I hope you have a happy life together! But speaking in broad generalizations for humans as a whole, I think 10ish years is where we normally start looking for someone new, but we’ve been pigeonholed into this idea that you’re a failure if your marriage dissolves for any reason, and a LOT of people are GREATLY unhappy for it. That’s my ultimate point I guess.
Lol, you rationalize a lot instead of feeling it, right? Universe ends in heat death, Food supply will chease 2042, climate wars will ravage earth, populism reigns… and you really think there is still a meaning to all this except: “Have the most fun before you die but don’t be an asshole.” (or whatever you want)
Bringing children to this world to feel a purpose for someone’s own life is kind of sad and super unfair towards the children. (Go child! Distract me from my own mortality!)
Live life how you want to, mine is brilliant I hope ours will be too my friend.
The biological aspect may be true if you take only the body. If you take the head (psyche), it would fuck you up seriously to switch families every 10 years, additionally you need to be available for older children too ( and you will propably do this once probably, before you grow old and tired and just want to cuddle with someone you know instead of sex with someone you barely do…)
It’s the kids. 11+ yrs still kicking it as dinks. Best thing ever!
The dink lifestyle is indeed pretty great but has its own problems. At least with kids when you ask “what is the point of it all” you can look at your kids and think your life has meaning. Dink’s don’t get that though, and after a while routine sets in and things get boring and couples start looking elsewhere for meaning and purpose.
11 years isn’t really that long, though is longer than average. There are exceptions to every rule and if you’re someone who enjoys lifelong monogomy and your partner is on board then I hope you have a happy life together! But speaking in broad generalizations for humans as a whole, I think 10ish years is where we normally start looking for someone new, but we’ve been pigeonholed into this idea that you’re a failure if your marriage dissolves for any reason, and a LOT of people are GREATLY unhappy for it. That’s my ultimate point I guess.
Lol, you rationalize a lot instead of feeling it, right? Universe ends in heat death, Food supply will chease 2042, climate wars will ravage earth, populism reigns… and you really think there is still a meaning to all this except: “Have the most fun before you die but don’t be an asshole.” (or whatever you want)
Bringing children to this world to feel a purpose for someone’s own life is kind of sad and super unfair towards the children. (Go child! Distract me from my own mortality!)
Live life how you want to, mine is brilliant I hope ours will be too my friend.
The biological aspect may be true if you take only the body. If you take the head (psyche), it would fuck you up seriously to switch families every 10 years, additionally you need to be available for older children too ( and you will propably do this once probably, before you grow old and tired and just want to cuddle with someone you know instead of sex with someone you barely do…)