• qarbone@lemmy.world
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    5 days ago

    Have you included the years of exclusive dating prior to marriage? Or contrasted that with people that date for years without labeling it or getting married?

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      5 days ago

      My dude this is a shitposting community I didn’t put any thought at all into my comment. I’m just musing on some general ideas I think about. This isn’t like, a well researched position or anything. But I’d guess the timer starts when you become exclusive and resets in major life events. If you just date then you get ten years before you want something else. If you get married before that, then that is the big exciting change and resets the clock. Then kids come along and resets it again but then you’re all out of resets.

      Bickering like an old married couple isn’t just a meme.

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        5 days ago

        Ok.

        But now how does swinging factor into this? Humans are monke. Maybe we evolved to swing?

        Edit: my name is going first on the research paper.

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          3 days ago

          Swinging fits neatly into what I’ve described. You get new sexual partners, spread your genes around to more people/babies. With more babies with new people, the stagnation doesn’t set in and so the desire to leave doesn’t manifest in the same way. Now you’ve got me curious about the divorce rate for swingers.

          my name is going first on the research paper.

          Fair

          Edit: the divorce rate among swingers is either 95% if you listen to pearl clutching Christians or “significantly lower than national average” if you listen to dubiously researched random articles from a search engine, so take what you will from that, I guess.