• theneverfox@pawb.social
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      47 minutes ago

      It’s a legit problem… You have tops and bottoms in straight relationships too, it’s not about parts or gender, it’s about relationship dynamics

      But we’ve partially tied it up with gender, which really fucks with all these people who don’t understand why their sex lives suck, no matter how hard they try

    • beefbot@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      3 hours ago

      You’re not uninformed You’re just categorically unable to truly experience being an excluded community* so you’re got to take terminology from people who don’t really have a choice

      *cis only

      But you don’t HAVE to understand the lives of people you take terminology from, so lots of you don’t, & those who don’t sometimes wander into threads like this anyway, reminding me that honestly most of you ARE like that

      :3c