It’s not about it working. It’s about creating a narrative in their own head where they are the victim even if it’s a complete fabrication. Then they can pin all their recent troubles on something that isn’t their fault. “That asshole gave me a thumbs up, then went back on it! I needed that thing for success, and he’s the reason that didn’t happen.”
I don’t believe someone does this on purpose. When would this work?
It’s not about it working. It’s about creating a narrative in their own head where they are the victim even if it’s a complete fabrication. Then they can pin all their recent troubles on something that isn’t their fault. “That asshole gave me a thumbs up, then went back on it! I needed that thing for success, and he’s the reason that didn’t happen.”
My mother-in-law. She rewrites history in her head and imagine stories where she’s the hero that didn’t actually happen.
It’s a coping mechanism to prevent her having to face and work on her own problems.