• Rev. Layle@lemm.ee
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    4 days ago

    I only have one biological kid, he is 29 now. The other 3 are step kids. What I realized is that, for reasons probably too long to go on here, is:

    • I am terrible with small kids, the younger, the worse time.
    • Teenagers are easier for me to deal with
    • I don’t get that “it’s worth it” or “this is the most rewarding thing” feeling. I feel like I should have never had any kids.when I am doing things with kids I am generally thinking “I want to do something else” not involving kids.
    • While I am much better about it these days, there was a 10 year period where i dispised kids, with my spouse, at the time, not making the situation better. I don’t hate children, in general, anymore, I am still pretty ambivalent about anyone else kids.

    That being said I love my kids, none of the above is their fault whatsoever. However,I totally get why people do not want kids.