Because I seriously don’t think it’s morally wrong at all for a 26 year old man to have a one night stand with a really hot 18 year old woman because they’re both literally consenting adults. I’m from Calgary Alberta and in Alberta the drinking age is 18. So I don’t see anything morally wrong at all for me to have a one night stand with a really hot 18 year old woman that I met at the bar because me and her are both consenting adults and she has all the same legal rights that I have she can vote, she can join the military, she can purchase cigarettes, she can purchase alcohol, and she can buy a house.
Now when it comes to dating a 18 year old woman. Personally I don’t have any desire to date anyone at all because dating and being in romantic relationship with just doesn’t appeal to me.
But if a 26 year old man met an 18 year old woman at the bar and they both decided that they want to go on a date with eachother then I also don’t see anything morally wrong with that either because they are both consenting adults.
No, if you’re both consenting adults, then go at it.
Legally there’s no problem, as you’ve pointed out a dozen times
Morally, you gotta look at a case by case basis. The 18th birthday doesn’t magically turn someone into an adult, it’s an arbitrary line because the line had to be drawn somewhere. Some 18 year olds look 12, some look 30, some are fully mature and some are large children.
Now to actually answer your question, is it wrong for a 26yo to hook up with 18?
In general probably not (with proper consent and stuff)
But… there’s some major red flag vibes in the way you wrote the question so I’m gonna say in your case YES WRONG GTFO
one night stand with a really hot 18 year old woman
This post is a weird flex
If you just met them, no problem. If you’ve known them for a few years and then have a one night stand after they turn 18, that would be creepy.
As long as you’re not seeking out young women just because they’re easier to manipulate. If you respect her and she knows what your intentions are, no it isn’t morally wrong.
Yes.
(26/2)+7=20
20 is the minimum age that you should be hooking up with.
You’re making a helluva lot of justifications here, and sounding really, really defensive. A person that is 18 can still be in high school (and, in fact, most of the seniors in my high school either were 18, or turned 18 during the school year); if the thought of hooking up with someone that could reasonably still be high school when you’re presumably as done with college and/or trade school as you’re going to get doesn’t squick you out, well, I don’t know what to tell you, other than your moral compass needs to be recalibrated.
If they’re too young for you to have a relationship with, they’re too young to hook up with. Given my current age, the youngest that I would hook up with right now is early 30s; in the past I’ve gone younger (mid/late 20s), but even a decade ago that was too young; I had a degree, a career, owned a house, had a 401(k), and I’m hooking up with a Starbucks barista? Ew.
I went to college at 17 year old because my birthday was in December lol
No. She is an adult, if she wanted some dick it doesn’t matter how old it is, it’s her decision.
Exactly she is an adult who is fully capable of making her own decisions.
Sure. So long as you don’t mislead her in any way.
there’s nothing legally wrong with it, but it’s not something i would be happy to hear about from a friend or whatever, cause now i need to ask:
- how long/how well do they know them (longer and knowing them more is generally worse)
- were drugs or alcohol involved (bad, but maybe gives the 26 year old more wiggle room)
- are they going to continue seeing them (probably bad)
- are they aware that they hooked up with someone who’s brain isn’t fully formed
like, it can be done in an ethical way, but in practice, probably won’t be. legally, an 18 year old is an adult, but that does not mean they’re equal in all capacities to adults over 25
generally speaking, unless it was a very isolated hookup without follow up contact, i would pretty strongly recommend against it
that said, yeah, this post reeks of flexing about hooking up with an 18 year old LMAO which… personally, i would not brag about
"I then asked whether he had insights about where the figure 25 came from, and he said roughly the same thing as Cohen: There’s consensus among neuroscientists that brain development continues into the 20s, but there’s far from any consensus about any specific age that defines the boundary between adolescence and adulthood. “I honestly don’t know why people picked 25,” he said. “It’s a nice-sounding number? It’s divisible by five?”
Kate Mills, a developmental neuroscientist at the University of Oregon, was equally puzzled. “This is funny to me-I don’t know why 25,” Mills said. “We’re still not there with research to really say the brain is mature at 25, because we still don’t have a good indication of what maturity even looks like.”
https://slate.com/technology/2022/11/brain-development-25-year-old-mature-myth.html
i appreciate you posting this, i like learning more about things and i’m glad i know better now than to just assume the brain is finished developing at 25
so i did a little more reading and the following points still seem clear:
- the brain continues developing into (at least) one’s thirties
- there’s no hard fall off point for maturity
so, instead of just looking at their age, we have to look at their age gap, and ask the question, is there a disproportionate imbalance of power here?
let’s take a moment to define this: the definition i use is roughly, does one person possess more of a handful of traits than the other? these traits are: life experience, career/financial experience, social experience, and general brain development (ability to assess risk reward, understand long term consequences, ability to communicate one’s needs effectively, etc; which is informed both by growth and experience)
obviously, we can’t make a generalized comparison that will be true for every 18 year old and every 26 year old in the world. however, we can understand that, in most circumstances, the 26 year old will have more of each of these attributes in spades than the 18 year old
reversing that argument also makes this very clear: for it to be acceptable, the 26 year old needs to have a comparable maturity and reasoning level to an 18 year old, someone nearly a decade younger than them. which is why i said it’s not something i would brag about, personally. either you’re saying you’re immature as an 18 year old, or you’re saying you’re comfortable, to some degree, of engaging in intimately dangerous behavior with someone who is significantly less experienced and developed than you are (or, i suppose, very rarely, you’ve hooked up with an 18 year old who is not only pretty mature, but who’s been living on their own and supporting themselves for a while. but you didn’t include that in the parameters of the question, so i don’t think that’s what you meant)
to be clear, i understand that the current economic situation has made attaining those life experiences quite difficult, even for people in their mid twenties. however, most people who cannot attain those life experiences, are also generally not hooking up with people, because there are a number of practical barriers to entry there (financial, location, transportation, etc); i don’t think it’s something to be ashamed of! but notably, in this situation, one would be bragging about something very much not worth bragging about, either (and i would hope they were still sensitive to the idea that there are still some differences between them, robbed of the opportunities to spread their wings as an adult, and an 18 year old, who has simply not been alive long enough to do so)
invalidating the question of whether a brain is completely mature at 25 doesn’t mean that an age gap becomes acceptable because “we can’t tell”, it just means we need to apply a more nuanced standard of scrutiny to the situation
which, maybe you agree with, but i wanted to make my position in light of this new evidence very clear
Alberta. Canada’s Texas. Sheesh.
