As someone who has done a similar experiment (though only making out) I feel like this guy is gayer than myself because I don’t think I could stay turned on or motivated enough to fuck a dude effectively, even a very fem one.
That being said I feel like gay is supposed to mean “attracted to other men” not “not-overtly-repulsed by sex with another man”
There are asexual people who can and do still have sex because they aren’t sex repulsed. Those people are still asexuals, just like asexuals who are sex repulsed are asexuals.
It’s less about what you do and more about why you’re doing it that makes it gay. Are you attracted to other men? No? Then I guess it’s not necessarily gay.
I mean… masturbation for men means touching male genitalia. You’re not bothered by that. So why be so bothered by other male genitalia?
I had a few gay experiences as a teenager. I had fun, but I never dreamed of it, unlike with girls. Even a whiff of some girly sweat mixed with like the intoxicating smell of some girls hair could make me wank off to them for days. But never replayed the experiences with my male friend in my head when looking for sexual excitation.
But the gay experiences were more like “I wonder what a blowjob feels like”. Zero sexual innuendo or romance or lust or infatuation or anything.
Just two friends getting each other off for a novel experience.
Wasn’t really my thing. But I’m fairly confident I’m more confident I’m not gay than most guys, having explored that aspect and found it to really not be my thing.
Did the same with most drugs as well. Tried em all in my youth, but now I only use weed and alcohol.
As someone who has done a similar experiment (though only making out) I feel like this guy is gayer than myself because I don’t think I could stay turned on or motivated enough to fuck a dude effectively, even a very fem one.
That being said I feel like gay is supposed to mean “attracted to other men” not “not-overtly-repulsed by sex with another man”
There are asexual people who can and do still have sex because they aren’t sex repulsed. Those people are still asexuals, just like asexuals who are sex repulsed are asexuals.
It’s less about what you do and more about why you’re doing it that makes it gay. Are you attracted to other men? No? Then I guess it’s not necessarily gay.
Gay sex isn’t gay? The boys group chat was right all along??
I mean… masturbation for men means touching male genitalia. You’re not bothered by that. So why be so bothered by other male genitalia?
I had a few gay experiences as a teenager. I had fun, but I never dreamed of it, unlike with girls. Even a whiff of some girly sweat mixed with like the intoxicating smell of some girls hair could make me wank off to them for days. But never replayed the experiences with my male friend in my head when looking for sexual excitation.
But the gay experiences were more like “I wonder what a blowjob feels like”. Zero sexual innuendo or romance or lust or infatuation or anything.
Just two friends getting each other off for a novel experience.
Wasn’t really my thing. But I’m fairly confident I’m more confident I’m not gay than most guys, having explored that aspect and found it to really not be my thing.
Did the same with most drugs as well. Tried em all in my youth, but now I only use weed and alcohol.