I don’t understand how wanting to use feminine pronouns for someone femme-presenting and “wanting to be a woman” is “forcing an agenda”? Is respect an agenda now?
Also, it seems like it would give her dysphoria to use he/him pronouns on someone who wants to be the opposite gender (although I realize pronouns =/= gender)
Because a pronoun is not a name.
There really isn’t a difference though. Calling her a him isn’t less offensive than calling Eddie Mark.
One reason why pronouns exist is that you don’t need to know someone in order to be able to refer to them. Forcing people to use someone’s preferred pronouns defeats the purpose.
Once someone has let you know how they prefer to be referred to then you are just being rude if you choose to do otherwise. No one is forcing you to do anything but when you choose to be impolite shouldnot expect to be praised for that choice.