• gapbetweenus@feddit.de
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    1 year ago

    If you ever speak about it, it just goes the old “you’re a man you have life on easy don’t you know how hard it is to be X” or “that’s not the way the world is any more you are stuck in the 40’s” or " you need to be thinking about X and how men make them feel and you need to do better even though you haven’t done anything wrong you’re responsible."

    Stop talking with the voices in your head. It helps a lot.

    I’m just convinced men aren’t built like that

    I’m a man and I’m build like that. How about not making generalizations about like half the population of earth. Some men want do MMA, some do want talk about feelings and some might even want to do both. There is no one size fit them all approach to masculinity. And it was never about, making traditional manly man any less manly. It is about realizing that we are all different and no-one is less human or men because we don’t fit in some box.

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      1 year ago

      Stop talking with the voices in your head. It helps a lot.

      Holy shit. Nail on the head. To the OP, I hope that’s not so harsh you don’t hear the message. You are rather ill-informed on what is acceptable human behavior, and what is that old toxic masculinity that us humans are trying to get rid of. You are absolutely fine hanging out with buddies and doing guy stuff. “Clubs” have been on a downward tend since the mid 20th century, and it’s not feminism that did that. It’s just that people are less and less interested in joining them and committing time. They all struggle with membership (yes, I belong to one).

      There’s also the possibility that if you don’t have guys to hang out with, it might be that your idea of “shithouse” is just being shitty. I’ve spent plenty of time in locker rooms -and that kind of behavior gets on peoples nerves as you get older. That’s not an attack on masculinity.

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      Stop talking with the voices in your head. It helps a lot.

      Congratulations, you did exactly what others have said is the problem: men’s problems are dismissed or blamed on the victims. Are you seriously denying that this happens?

      • gapbetweenus@feddit.de
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        1 year ago

        How are do you write despite lacking the ability to read? Is there a nest of you guys somewhere next to this sub?