• JohnDClay
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    1 year ago

    Why use a communication mode that demands an immediate response if you don’t actually need one?

    • Querk [they/them]@discuss.tchncs.de
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      1 year ago

      Same reason people at home just come up to each other and start talking (which actually requires immediate response) even when the topic is non-urgent whatsoever, instead of leaving notes around the house.

      It’s all based on differing conventions among people, so saying a call “demands immediate response” is putting your convention above others as the only true one.

      In my family the convention is a bit different. A single call does not signal any urgency and so no one is expected nor obliged to answer if they don’t feel like it. A second call after the first one wasn’t answered implies importance. Third and more calls imply urgency and then emergency. If something is important or urgent and calls aren’t getting answered, a message is sent.

      I like my convention. I also have slightly different conventions with some friends. I am also aware different people may have different conventions and I don’t hold mine to be superior or theirs inferior.

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        1 year ago

        I agree your convention would supercede the one I’m taking about. I kinda like it too.

        I think conversation is different though since there is a major effort imbalance between writing a note and taking. But there is no effort imbalance in texting or calling, especially since you can voice type.

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        1 year ago

        I see the confusion. I don’t ever want to have a conversation with anyone.

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        1 year ago

        Text ‘can we call? I’d love to talk sometime!’