• PsychedSy
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    1 year ago

    I have a really annoying way of understanding things. I piece shit together bit by bit and guess at the answer before I’m told. It comes off very interrogative. Even when I’m wrong my attempts to understand seem like I’m being antagonistic. I try to explain to some people how I’m trying to fix the underlying assumptions that led me wrong.

    Some people won’t respond well and it’s really difficult for me to accept that there isn’t a way to mediate both of us being happy.

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      1 year ago

      My mother is like that (and her mother was), at least from what you describe.

      The result is, she constant interrupts my speech with guesses what I’m about to say. It’s incredibly aggravating especially because I have a speech impediment exactly because of their constant interruptions when I was a kid. And somewhat funnily, she always guesses wrong. Never right. Every time.

      And the interrogative tone is there too, tho that’s harder to describe.

      So I can’t talk to people like that, and may get hostile very quickly if I see such behaviour. Tho I’ve not met many people that do it.

      If your brain works that way, at least try to not talk like that. I used to have similar patterns just due to having them learned, and had to unlearn.

      /edit cause I’m cold and my brain doesn’t work either and this stupid keyboard keeps bugging out, fuck this

    • -☆-@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      1 year ago

      I’m the exact same way! I’ve come to assume it’s from being on the spectrum, but that’s me guessing at answers again lol

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        1 year ago

        Same. I’ve had a coworker that was learning about autism to understand her nephew guess it as well.