I hate pubs. I hate bars. All the people, loud music and other overstimulations make my brain go crazy… but most of my friends want to go to bars. Its seems like they are enjoying themselves… any tips to either get better att handeling sutch situations in fututure so i wont be as much of a antisosial outsider?

Cheers

  • Ratboy@lemmy.mlEnglish
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    2 years ago

    I have a fidget spinner ring that’s kinda discreet so I can stim. Maybe you can get some loop earplugs to dampen the noise. I also used to bring this tincture and put a few droppers full into water and drink that. Kava is in it and that specifically can soothe your nerves and is known to help people loosen up/be more sociable, but you don’t get drunk or high, it’s just an herbal tincture. Its a very…strong taste though lol. Or maybe, it could help if you could find a bar arcade, play pool, or do some kind of activity while out with them at the bar. being able to focus on a game or task might help everything else to feel less intense.

    Also, there is nothing wrong with just going for a short time and leaving when you know you’re at your max!

    • ab60753@lemmy.sdf.orgOPEnglish
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      2 years ago

      I am very ware of anything that messes with my mind. But also i dont have a choice… i belice Kava is illegal where i live so unless i decide resort to smuggling och the black market (bit too much of a goodie two shoes for that)…

      But trying to find a place with pool or an arcade sounds like a devent idea.

      Thanks

      • Ratboy@lemmy.mlEnglish
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        2 years ago

        Oh yeah if it’s illegal that’s definitely not worth the trouble lol. Also not to be confused with kratom. Hope you can figure out what works for you!