I just don’t get why they’d withdraw the appeal or why anyone would try and coax them into it. It’s not a mankading. He walked straight out, and Carey threw the ball directly at the stumps after catching.

I’d say the spirit of the game is about things like walking after you’ve nicked the ball, or admitting you didn’t catch a ball. If Carey had waited for Bairstow to leave this crease and then stumped him I think there’s a better case for the ball being dead but also for the spirit of the game argument. But that’s not the case here