• li10@feddit.uk
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    “Parents take you to a psychologist”

    Can’t relate to that bit, my mother refused to even take me to the opticians because she insisted there was nothing wrong with me.

    These days she thinks I’m making the ADHD stuff up, and occasionally asks me why I don’t just take off my glasses for a while…

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      Sorry dude that sounds rough.

      I was thankfully provided transport, but I was also subjected to a long lecture on why I “don’t want to be on medication”.

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        I can relate to that, they’re suddenly experts on a condition that they don’t understand and the medication to treat it.

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      But why would my parents take me to a doctor when my mom does all the same stuff?

      “It’s normal.” …uh, no. Mom had undisagnosed ADHD.

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      Can I ask how well you now look after yourself as an adult? Cause I grew up similarly and have huge issues caring for myself, it’s like I can’t identify what is good for me

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    Just started meds at 29. I can’t actually get my work done, I can see how little I could accomplish before. It’s crazy.

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      Similar story, started at 24, bout a year ago. Only just managed to find the best dose.

      Oh how small the world seemed before.

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          Like OP said, I am on Vyvanse as well and I found it to be much better than adderall. I feel a little more like myself.

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          Vyvanse. Essentially adderall but slow release. I’ve heard it’s much smoother when it comes on.

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            It’s very similar but it’s not the exact same (not including the time release part). Vyvanse is 100% dextroamphetamine after time release; adderall is 3/4 dextro and 1/4 levoamphetamine. Different people feel that differently, for example with only dextro I feel much calmer/less prone to anxiety, but without the small amount of levo I have trouble motivating myself and can fall asleep easily. They also have 100% dextro in instant release format: dexedrine or zenzedi.

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    Yes.

    Although I was also of an age when I was diagnosed (40), where it not only threw my whole life up to that point into a different light….it also threw my parent’s lives up to that point into a different light. Because part of why I was sure I was ‘normal’ for 40 years was because my whole family did the exact same things….🤦🤷‍♂️

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    Diagnosed at 47. It’s been a helluva ride. I’ve been addicted to more substances than you can shake a stick at. Car crashes. Destroyed relationships. Academic disasters. Depression. Criminal justice. Happy now though, trying not to look back but it wasn’t all bad. Every day I do a bit of work on rebuilding my self esteem.

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    I’m sorry. That sounds horrible. I have ADHD but I didn’t have trouble like that. I’m sorry that happened to you.

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    Everythinga checks out except the last about the parents. My mom said she was sorry and told me that schools and parents were not taught about those things and she didn’t knew better. She was really sad. Poor mom did her best

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    Just got my six year old diagnosed and we are learning how to help her develop strategies to deal with it. For now, we’re keeping meds on the back burner, but anyone have more recent experience with meds as a child? My husband wasn’t diagnosed until he was an adult and we don’t want to immediately start with meds or use his coping method of Adderall and copious amounts of caffeine.

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      Out of curiosity is there a particular reason you’re avoiding meds for them other than the stigma associated with stimulants? It’s a first-line treatment for ADHD not a last resort.

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        that hit me too. people want to avoid what is the mostly likely thing to work. how stimulants affect adhd people: the enhance concentration, making it possible to learn and grow in a healthier way, to succeed. they don’t do the same thing that they do to someone without adhd. just like insulin for a type one diabetic.

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        Mostly because she’s six. It’s not so much about the stigma, but that my husband and I both feel that medication simply covers up the issue rather than learning ways to work with how her brain works. We will absolutely get her meds if need be, but right now things like movement breaks at dinner seem to be really helping.

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          Without intending to be pinickity, I would just like to say that, long-term studies of stimulant medication show growth in the areas of the brain ADHDers are typically underdeveloped.

          Making no comment on you decision, I just wanted to challenge that it merely covers up the issue. It may very well be that understanding herself and ADHD-educated parents are the only necessary tools (I wouldn’t know - sounds like she’s lucked out). But the medication does actually address (to some extent) aspects of the underlying problem enough to be neurologically measurable.

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            Oh yes, it does address the underlying problem. Absolutely. We aren’t thinking of meds as a last resort, but simply after we all have some tools in our belt to help manage the symptoms. The underdevelopment is interesting. I’ll look into that, but it likely won’t affect our decision regarding medication.

            Thank you for your comments and replies. They are very well thought out.

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              Thank you for your comments and replies. They are very well thought out.

              Thank you, kind stranger. I wish you and you family all the best.

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    It took a huge amount of time and self reflection to realize that I’m not lazy and I’m actually trying my best. It’s sad to think how misunderstood I was for so, so many years.

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    it’s not mental illness. it’s neurological. you are born with it and no amount of therapy will change that, tho there are for sure ways to manage it.