(Male if it matters)
I don’t know if I’m reaching a new level of sexual maturity or what. Lately instead of looking at hardcore porn and furiously jerking off until I cum, I’m looking at no pics or lewd pics on Lemmy, and taking my time to feel as much of the sensations as I can. I’m finding that I don’t need to reach an orgasm to still feel pleasure and like I enjoyed myself. I’m not talking about edging - I don’t get that close. Just enjoying the good vibes.
Anyone else? Do you set expectations when you sit down to masturbate? Do you expect to achieve orgasm and get frustrated when you don’t?
Been doing this for a long time actually. I don’t really use porn for masturbating. I find it way more relaxing to just enjoy the moment. Usually an orgasm is not at all hard to achieve any more (even at my age), so it usually happens. But if it doesn’t, that’s OK too.