It was sometime in early 2022 that I found myself reading a few romance novels. I remember being mildly annoyed about how most of the books had instant chemistry/attraction as part of the plot. Then I suddenly found myself wondering, how do I feel if and when I feel attraction? I think I have probably never felt instant attraction. When I look at a good looking man/woman I just feel an appreciation for their beauty, like how I would feel looking at a beautiful painting or photograph. At most all I feel is a wish is to look at them a few times more than is appropriate. I don’t remember how it feels like to feel attraction towards someone I have feelings for. The last time I felt strong feelings for someone was many years ago and I can’t recall my feelings now. I am very curious to know how other people feel when they experience attraction towards someone. How does it feel physically, and what thoughts and/or feelings do you experience? Also, do you consider chemistry and attraction to be the same or different? How?

  • Semi-Hemi-Demigod@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    For me it’s two things: The Tingle and The Fizz.

    The Tingle is an intellectual and emotional. If I see an attractive person do something nice, or they’re extremely competent about something, especially if it’s something I don’t know a lot about, there’s a flutter in my heart and a tingly electrical feeling in my brain. If they keep doing these things and don’t do unattractive things, maybe I’ll work up the nerve to ask them out.

    The Fizz is more primal. James May explains it well.