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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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  • Sorry for the bleak outlook but I just really needed to get this out of my system. \n\nEdit: To all those asking for advice I’m sorry but I wasn’t sure if I was in the right place on this so let me know and I’ll do my best to reply. \nFirst of all I am not a terrible person, I’ve turned a corner, I think. I have moved on. I’m not an anti-social person or anything but I’ve learned to navigate social situations myself and as a result I am not as easily riled up as some people are making it sound. That being said, I am aware that I will feel immensely guilty in the morning. My cousin, like many others before him, is very anxious and I think that’s probably why he’s so anxious. \n\nThe thing is, I’m not angry about it. Like I said, I’m slowly coming around to accepting that I’m not a bad person by nature, but I still get like one angry call a week from people because I happen to be “in the wrong”. Again, sorry for the bleak outlook. \n\nI guess what I’m trying to get across is that I am not looking for solutions, I’m looking for people who can step up and be a little more confident in talking to me about these things because as it stands right now, it’s really hard for me to even get a moment to myself to actually get to where I want to be in life because every conversation I have with people about it ends with them wanting to put a bullet in my head. I want more for my kids than that’s just verbal attacks, I want them to have a better life than I did and I want things to be better for them than they are right now. \n\nSo if you could give me one piece of advice, what would it be?


  • If you follow him, he’ll follow you.\n\nHe’s a very sensible guy and a great sport - he’s ‘on’ for life’ and won’t say anything that could cause a problem.\n\nI decided to start following him because he’s a nice guy and hasn’t done anything to upset me.\n\nI’m not really one to care much for political opinions - but I’d like to keep an open mind and have a debate about things.\n\nI’m not sure what I’m looking for though, other than the fact that he’s sensible. Yahtzee!


  • I’ll be posting more info here as I have more time. Stay strong guys.\n\nEDIT: The post made it so much better and deserves a separate post with a longer bio, thank you everyone.\nThank you to every single one of you who took the time to reply to me, it was very eye opening and explained so much about what being a dad is all about. I will definitely make a separate bio for each of you in the comments as time allows. \nMy father was an extremely high functioning alcoholic who was able to make some significant progress in life, albeit still very limited, with help from his doctors. Thank you to all of you for taking the time to reply to me, I really appreciate it!


  • Im a 39 year old with grey hair and blue eyes. Ive been a hair stylist for 9 years, and have been for over 10 for being hired by a preschool. I cut my hair for 9 years straight, and have never looked back. I am very open about it, and have even told people I have a problem with it. Ive dated 3 girls, 3 of which ended up liking me. My hair has gotten so long that it now runs almost to my knees, and I can barely walk without having to brace myself from the side.\n\nI would like to start a discussion about hair loss, and if it is something you would want to talk about with your partner, or if you just want to rant about the hair standard in general. I really don’t want to scare people off with the topic, but I did want to get it out of my system. Let’s keep it clean.


  • Background: Since the show has been on the air for so long it became extremely important for us to get our college registrations up and running. We've had about 3 registrations since then and have about 18 more to go. I am studying Computer Science and have been working on a project on getting one of the old registrations online. I've been working on a proof of concept for a website that would allow people to log in and create an account and log in anonymously. My project would be doing the same thing for the old registrations. However, I think that most people would just be interested in the new site.\n\nHow do you guys feel about this idea? If there are any problems setting up a computer so they can simply log in and start playing then I'd be happy to hear them. I am an old school person, so I am a little nervous of course. However, the project has so many benefits, not the least of which is that the old registrations would still function as normal, you can still play gamespseyired.com and log in and start playing without having to worry about anything. The project has created a great learning environment for me and the students.





  • I know it's not the first time you have read this, but please if you can join me by leaving a comment below. This is something I want to do for the whole community and for the future because I feel it is important for men to feel confident in themselves and to be seen as equal members of society. It comes from my understanding of the ways that society has historically framed gender, and how that framing has affected our brains and ultimately how we see the world.\n\nI would like to start off by saying thank you to everyone here for taking time out of your day to answer these questions. Being a dad is awesome, and I love learning about all of you and your perspectives. Being a retriever myself, having a conversation with a man about gender really opened my eyes to the ways in which gender has been socially constructed. I would love to know if this is something you have been on the hunt for, or if you have found it for you yourself. Thank you to all of you, I hope you intensely enjoyed reading this. \n\nWith regards to the title, I am a guy who works with boys and girls. When I say I work with boys, I mean that from the start of my career, as a teenager in the 90s I worked as a hair stylist, model, and head of hair for many years. As I gained more experience and became more confident in my craft, I also gained the confidence to be myself. That being said, I have always been interested in being a part of this community and wanted to come here and share my experiences with a mostly male audience. I have done my best to be candid and honest with this because I want to help other men feel confident in their own existence, be they a boy or a girl. \n\nI am a father of boys and a middle school teacher. I have always felt that as a man I should be handling my own gender transition like a man, talking to my wife about how she should present herself in the bathroom, brushing her teeth, etc. But what I did not prepare was talking to my wife about what being a dad was going to mean for her, her family, and her friends.\n\nShe has friends that are girls and they all transitioned at different times in their lives. Some have boys and some have girls. Some have boys kids and some don't. I just didn't know until after she had kids, when she was still in her early 20s, that it was going to be so different for everyone. And it's made me wonder if friends who had kids and didn't, how they handled the change.\n\nHas anyone else felt like they were left out or left behind because they weren't gender specific? Or was it just a personal preference?


  • Hi Reddit, I have a very rare disorder (I have more than one, see below). It’s a neurological condition where one of your two ears is missing. The missing ear is the eyelid, the part of your face that covers your eyes. It’s the only way to talk to the outside world and to communicate with people. Without it, you can’t talk, hear, or see. \n\nThe missing ear is the only part of your body that doesn’t function normally. It’s like a missing puzzle piece, or a missing puzzle piece in general.\n\nThere are about ten of us in the world, and only two of us have this condition. We have to hope that everyone will eventually be happy with their ears. \n\nI hope this post helps someone out there. If not, please consider sharing this post with someone you trust. I’m far more desperate than I was a year ago.


  • I work as a hair stylist for an international clientele and have a pretty good working relationship with my hair stylist. It’s not a high stress job, we get a lot of value out of our time.\n\nHowever, this past week I went to my stylist for a few hours and my hair started to take on a life of its own. I can’t pinpoint why this happened, but I do feel like it’s very concerning. The way my hair is currently held in, it’s become sort of loose like it was on a beach. It’s not a problem for my professional life, I’ve not had any issues at all with it. However, the urge to cackle and the need to shake hands with my stylist really eats at me. It’s not an unpleasant thing for me personally, but I feel like if I put my foot down and let my hair down, then this trend will continue.\n\nI’ve noticed a shift in the clients I work with, where they don’t seem to care that you have a bald head. The blonde, brunette, and other tones aren’t as sought after. I’ve also noticed that the more attractive the hair is going, the lower the price tag goes. If you have a short hair, this is no issue, but if you go super long it becomes a huge cost issue for your company.\n\nI feel like if I just cut it a little, it’ll come out better, but I go to great lengths not to cut my hair. It takes away any desire for me to act as a father or man.\n\nI just want to know what I can do to help make this better for myself and my hair stylist.





  • I’m a middle-aged, white, middle-class dad of two boys (5 & 2). I work with them in my occupation (university teaches creative writing and listening), and I work remotely with them on projects. In the past, I’ve worked with them on projects in school, in my job, and sometimes at home. However, the last three years have been extremely challenging on my part. They are both extremely shy and mute, and they haven’t been talking to each other as much as they used to. It was really hard for me to consider working with them full-time, as I want to be a great dad to them.\n\n\nNow that they are older, and with social media, I see that they are starting to realize that it’s not what they thought when they started working with me. They are very withdrawn, and I have noticed their interest in hooking up more. I know it’s normal, but I wanted to dive a little deeper into why I think it’s happening. What helped me see it, and how I can help them. AMA!


  • I need some advice from you guys. My dad passed away in 2018 so he hasn’t seen my 5 year old since February.\Kaiser has been with the family since February and has been with him almost everyday when he was in school. So I’m just wondering if there is anything out there you guys would recommend for me. He’s a kind of a gray and I don’t want to sound rude but it makes me uncomfortable that he would want to talk to someone who isn’t his dad. Like I could talk to him and my mom would be fine but then my dad would be like “well done” and that bothers me. He’s been a good dad to my mom and I know I could do better.


  • It’s really none of that important. The point is, you won’t go to a degree and live the life of a bachelor, you won’t go to a degree and live the life of a bachelor. You will go to a degree and live the life of a person. That is what it is all about. The person you become is what you are because of who you are because of who you are because of who you were not because of who you were not because of what you were because of who you were. The person you become is what you are because of who you were not because of who you were because of who you were not because of what you were because of who you were not because of anything. The person you become is what you are because of who you were not because of anything but who you are because of who you were.