It’s not really in the spirit of self hosting, but I use Tailscale for this. The config is pretty easy and they have an app for using it from mobile devices easily.

Communities are driven first by the people that join them, then who sticks around. In a setup like this, where anyone can drive by comment from any old instance, you’re going to need to ban abusive people or the good users will leave. /r/newzealand had a solid set of rules and for the most part they were consistently applied.

https://god.dailydot.com/bartender-kicks-out-tweets someone linked the nazi bar story the other day, Twitter is fucked for me atm so I can’t link the original. Either way, if you don’t kick out the shitheads straight away then they become your userbase, and the kicking out has to come from the mods in Lemmy. Downvotes don’t do anything here.

Not sure yet, still getting my head around the different server instances and who is ending up where.

Ah yep, I see where this is going now after his post the other day. No thanks, I’ll join another NZ community that isn’t going to ignore bigotry in service of “free speech” 👋

I love the crunchy grass mornings. The air smells amazing, and being rugged up against the cold is super cozy. Thanks for the picture 😄

I’m also using mlem, it crashes a bit but other is nice

Honestly if you’re willing to let people like the Tamaki family in, I don’t want to be here and will look for/create an alternative. Zero tolerance for bigotry is the only way to run an online community IMO. Otherwise you end up with a different kind of echo chamber, one full of bigots because everyone else got chased off.

I run a small community club. It’s not much but it keeps us all in touch with more people.