MerryChristmas [any]

My current therapist encourages me to trip shrooms and explore Hegel because that is what works for me. If you find a good one then they will quickly realize the traditional line of advice isn’t what you’re looking for. That said, I’ve also seen my share of awful therapists so I understand your hesitancy.

Infrastructure projects aside, I hear the man also had a lot of sex.

Maybe a therapist? Not like, in an accusatory ‘you need therapy’ kind of way - I just mean they could fill much the same role as you describe a dating coach filling, while also helping you deal with some of the rejection sensitivity that is often at the root of dating anxiety.