WhatDoYouMeanPodcast [comrade/them]

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Cake day: July 26th, 2020

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    1. gratitude is very important

    Not just existentially for a chance at being, but just muster as much of it as you can for the people around you, for every kindness shared with you, and for the beauty you get to experience. Even for bad shit that teaches you a lesson you can say thank you. It’s literally free.

    1. helping others

    If your own shit is fucked, you might get a little humility, space, and grace by thinking about others. Check in on your friends, find an opportunity to volunteer, donate if it’s in the cards for you.

    1. hydrate and get enough sleep

    When in doubt, these two might help

    1. spend some time in nature

    It should feel good to do this, so I wouldn’t prescribe an amount of time, but at least 30 minutes of touching grass

    After you have those four settled, I think it’s worthwhile to start thinking about how you put your life together. In my mind, if you reach for things that resonate with you and you pursue it by doing things that you enjoy, you’ll maximize your enjoyment, miss out on things that aren’t for you, and meet the right people along the way. The consequences of your actions aren’t permanent for you, sure, but if you live authentically and kindly, you’ll affect others positively so that they’ll have a better trip hurdling through space. Being as joyful as possible will have costed you nothing to help and, on the contrary, gotten you as close as possible to having your struggles be worthwhile.

    I suppose I just spend less time thinking and more time feeling - smoking life like a loose cigarette from God on a balcony overlooking meaningless and the void. Alan Watts has a very romantic view of being the universe observing itself that never quite landed for me, but you should check out his lectures. They’re very entertaining while being existential. Eckhart Tolle is a LIB and is a little more self-helpy, but is still a fantastic source of knowledge about ceasing to create your own unhappiness.








  • DMs like this should just write a book. It’s the same outcome because I’ve only ever gotten people to read 20 pages when I joined a writer’s workshop. But at least you get the satisfaction of seeing the plot through.

    Come to think of it. I did this to myself. I wrote, in a novel, a sassy woman who tricks the party into thinking they lost the minerals they were sent on a quest to find while they were talking to a related woman. I liked the duo so much they ended up as recurring characters who are important to the plot. They represent an anarchist, matriarchal commune who bend the rules in two warring countries (one communist, one capitalist), one of them is the adopted mother of one of the characters. They really stole the spotlight when it was originally supposed to be one woman who was a plot contrivance.





  • Besides what everyone else is saying in defense of trans rights which are human rights, I want to add a tangential point. I wouldn’t ever want my elected representative to think an issue is complicated. I sent you to the executive branch to exercise power on my behalf. Not to exercise fairness, not to exercise @[email protected] . No, motherfucker, we WON, fucking act like it. I don’t need the issue explained to me, you’re not a salesman. You don’t propose shit; I do. If you’re the one for the job, I vote for you. You are my public servant. I don’t know what drivel they taught you for that bullshit law degree, but it’s clouded you to the reality that your will, desire, and vision for the country as an elected official is secondary to mine. The issue is not complicated as far as you’re concerned; we’ll tell you what the answer is.


  • Relationships are hard and people have all sorts of fucked up expectations of what a partner is and hang ups about communicating. I’m not in my 20s anymore and I’m just starting to explore the craft of remediating friendships/relationships. When I was younger, I had to discover sympathy for not wanting to fuck up a friendship because I cut people out so much more easily than I explain how inappropriate someone is acting. I would tear through a friendship turned relationship when they criticize me for something I don’t feel is worthy of criticism and it’s RIP Bozo for what we had before. This shit still makes me consider whether I’m aromantic because I’m prepared to just be alone rather than try to make a relationship work. A good friend can be a shitty room mate. If you’re the shitty room mate and your friend wants to move in together that shit would be heartbreaking to hear because you’d need to immediately start processing the loss.

    You should always say in no uncertain terms that you’re into someone and play that hand. You have the one life to live and I imagine some people are happier in relationships. As long as you don’t start a platonic friendship as a wolf in sheep’s clothing, it’s all fair game as I see it. If you decide that your newly grown feelings aren’t reciprocated and you stop making an effort, whatever. If you don’t bother to know them better after you confess from the get go, whatever. If you can keep newfound feelings to yourself and never confess, fair enough. There aren’t rules to relationships. A wolf in sheep’s clothing is the only thing that is bad manner.