Sorry to then vanish back in to lurking for a couple of months. I’m still wanting to love Lemmy, but things are still slow enough that my typical 95% consumption model of reddit-like sites means I get bored faster, no matter how much more interesting the people are here…

I have literally never understood my interest in chastity… I read about it sometime in the late 90’s, mostly from Tammad, and something clicked. I needed to try it. I needed to be actively denied. Ironically I was still in the height of my slutting around days then. It’s never been a humiliation/degradation thing - nmk - and I’ve yet to be in a real D/s-y relationship where I’m s-ing.

There’s mild Ds with my keyholder, but tbh she’s mostly doing it - and doing it well beyond any reasonable expectations! - at my behest. As much as I (sort of) want to believe that she’d reject the request if I said I was done with all of this, I truly doubt we’d even explore that CnC road - though I’ve basically ok’d any given instance of such that she may be interested in and we could talk it out later.

It’s been about 10 years that I really started getting serious - when I told her what I wanted to - and about 6 since I’ve been basically full-time… and I feel like a recent trip where I messed up and left home without a cage for a week(!!) has shown me that I’d prefer not to go back to the old ways. Being locked feels more right. As does the restricted hard-on I’m attempting to get while typing this all up.

All that said, yes I absolutely still top, though not nearly as much as I’d LIKE TO BE. I’ve yet to find a bottom that’s also in to denial of this sort, sadly, but going after the “You’re done coming when I SAY you’re done” is almost as satisfying. I’ve just taken (bio)PiV(or A) off the table as something I’ll do with a partner. Most people have been ok with this. One wasn’t, and I’m a bit sad about it, but I survive.

I might go make this a top-level post someplace…

Please stop using imgur.com?

Or at least linking to posts/pictures that are disallowed by their new policies, because they are really deleting things pretty quickly 

I can’t give a definitive start point, but I know that when I was reading Tammad’s website in the late 90s, and he was writing about his explorations on the topic it hooked itself into my brain, and it never left after that. It took until the first knock offs of the CB 2000 were out before I bought my first device and then it was the HTv2 that was the first one I wore for a moderately regular time period. I’ve been in my Rigid since Aug ‘20, almost continuously.

What I can’t tell you is the question you asked: why? I really don’t understand why this has such a grip on my mind, but from the earliest readings I remember on the topic (above) it has just sat with me, and been something I wanted to explore.

Given that I am poly, and a switch… This has made the explorations and desires even more confusing. :-) 

And THANKS!

That being the case, I will probably create it tomorrow morning.

Too tired to cross the i’s and dot the t’s tonight.

I am super psyched that you’re here!

Another question about

Solicitation of sexual services (either way, asking or offering) is strictly forbidden.

Does this rule out a new RandomActsOfMuffDive, assuming that it is made very clear that all transactions must be of a non-commercial nature?