jwiggler

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Cake day: June 18th, 2023

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  • If you’re on the fence about watching this in its entirety, I encourage you to give it a shot. The summary below is totally accurate re: “the argument” (thank you, btw, Mr. Bucket) but it doesn’t really do the video justice. It’s actually funny and entertaining. I was kinda skeptical. I am chronically predisposed to overanalyzing “will this be worth my time?” regarding video essays. Watching it at 2x speed made it quicker and funnier for me. Totally worth it.



  • I think you might be misunderstanding me. I don’t mean to say women aren’t attracted by silliness. I mean to say that a person who tries to be a certain way (can be silly, serious, whatever) because they think it will attract a mate is less attractive, especially compared with than a person who is just a certain way because that’s how they are.

    Being your true self is more attractive than trying to be act in a way that you think will attract someone, yknow?

    But I agree with you (although I’m a man), silly is attractive. But being silly with the express intent of impressing potential romantic partners? Way less attractive


  • oop my bad, I wrote out my comment and then deleted my main point. I think you hit the nail on the head, my only differing opinion is that I think at this point, it’s really difficult to change the underlying reason that he’s doing it. At least for me, I wouldnt be able to just “turn off” the original intent of attracting women.

    If I went ahead with the plan trying to tell myself, “Well originally it was about getting dates and impressing women, but now its just about having fun,” I feel like I’d still be subconsciously doing it for the female gaze. That’s why I say the jig is up – if I were him, I’d bag the idea and wait for next purely silly fun idea

    Edit: Little anecdote to illustrate where I’m coming from. When I was in middle school and early high school, I really wanted to be that guy that played guitar. All the girls would love me. I started learning open chords and practicing simple songs, and I managed to learn a few over a couple months. I could never sing and play, just play a couple licks and tunes. But I soon lost interest because I wasn’t becoming the guy that played guitar, and girls didnt care that I was the guy that was simply learning to play the guitar.

    Fast forward to college/covid, I’ve lost interest in being the guy that plays guitar. That dude is cringe anyways. But it would be cool to learn how to sing and play guitar at the same time. That sounds like fun, to be able to really play some music. So I picked up a guitar and I was total shit. Couldn’t do anything I used to be able to. Eh, whatever, the next time I pick it up, I’ll be a tiny bit more comfortable. And I was. I’d accepted I would probably never be a good player. Who cares if I’m good? I just like the feeling of getting a little more fluid. Oh shit! I can play and sing! As long as I play super slowly. Sweet. I start to express myself bit by bit, a little more and a little more, adjusting the tempo, the volume, my vocal delivery. Ooo, that feels good. Huh, look at that! Barre chords are easy now. Hmm…I bet I could go back to that song I couldnt play a while ago and play it now. Oh shit! I can play it! Siiiick. Dang, that was a big bong rip…hmmm what should I do to enjoy this high… looks at the guitar on my wall oh fuck yeah…

    And that’s how I became the guy that played guitar, who I wanted to be when I was young. I mean I’m still not good. Definitely wouldn’t play for an audience. But goddamn if its not the most valuable thing I ever learned to do. I can express myself in a whole new way. I look back and think, if I had approached it from the desire to be at the destination, I would’ve lost any motivation I had. It couldnt be about becoming good at guitar, or becoming a guitar player, or becoming a guy who played guitar. I needed to approach it from the pure desire to just fuck around on guitar. Try the thing today that I couldnt do yesterday. Oh shit! I can do it! Hell yeah. For me, I never want to do something if I don’t enjoy doing it. Fortunately for me, I enjoy fucking up and figuring out why and then doing it better the next day. I like learning, and don’t mind being shit at something. No one is good at something the first time.

    So that’s why I think OP shouldnt go do the photoshoot, because if it isnt for the pure enjoyment of the thing, if the intent is, I guess, polluted, by him wanting to seem like a certain type of person, he’s more likely to have a bad time.


  • I think this is the reason he shouldn’t do it. If the whole reason to do it is to attract women, that is pretty unattractive. It would be funny if they just did it for the “fuck it, why not be silly?” aspect of it, but I feel like if the original reason is to attract women, then the jig is up and it is forced and weird.

    “Let’s be silly” is cool and attractive. “Let’s be silly so we can attract women” is cringe and off-putting.





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    Sure dude but in this case your comment comes off as if you were a huge elitist asshole. I mean, maybe you’re not. It’s just that your comment sounds as if it could be written by one. As if you’re just better than the OP because you can understand the complicated, intricate, dynamic mechanics of a game and OP is just not… whatever… enough to “get it”, and that they should just go play this simpler, one-dimensional, easy game, that they don’t even have to pay attention to.

    It’s like you went to see an indie art-house film with your friend, and upon hearing that they didn’t like it as much as you did, you say “that’s okay, you’re probably just not smart enough to get it. Maybe you should just watch Marvel movies from now on.”

    Just major, major asshole vibes. And I’m saying this as a KCD stan.



  • Yeah it really depends what you’re talking about. Our politics are pretty whack. There’s a small amount of that good libertarian socialist energy here that bleeds over from Vermont and Maine, and I do feel like that is intensifying as Trump wields his heavy hammer of federal government, but I think a good chunk of that energy gets stolen and redistributed by bigots. We’ve never really had someone like Bernie to channel it.

    But outside of politics we’ve got mountains, we’ve got lakes, we’ve got beaches, we’ve got some small cities, and Boston’s just a day trip away. I’ve always enjoyed that aspect. But yeah. New Hampshire. Live restrained and hike a little. See a loon. Then die.




  • Every few years I get the customization bug and trick out my desktop. Then things start breaking down slowly. Then I get frustrated and reinstall vanilla gnome, swear off customization forever, and feel better.

    For gaming its Plasma.

    Knowing the default DE’s idiosyncrasies also helps with work – I’m never surprised when I reinstall/install a new machine. Same goes for aliases. No for me, knowing the commands themselves, however cumbersome or verbose, helps me better deal with freshly installed machines.


  • So I’m not expert, but did PPL for a while and had good results. I wasn’t super strict, but essentially did 3 days on one day off. As long as I did my compound lift and a couple of my iso lifts, I felt satisfied.

    Can I ask why you do Push+biceps and pull+triceps, instead of doing push (including triceps isos) and pull (including biceps isos)? For me, my triceps workouts occured after bench press, which helped me focus on squeezing the muscle after it had already been hit with heavy weights. And on my pull days, my biceps isometric would follow barbell rows in the same fashion.

    The other thing I was thinking is are you eating enough? Feel like that’s really the most important for muscle growth