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17 hours agoI would say that is unlikely.
I work with a lot of really really old CPAs and lawyers, and they are just completely delusional about how hard things really are for younger generations.
“Have you tried working harder?”
“How come you haven’t bought a house? We pay you [not] well!”
“My children are struggling too, I had to buy each of them their homes. Maybe ask your [destitute] parents for help?”
“Back in my day, we worked so much harder. You guys have it so easy! By the way, I cannot open this PDF and I need you to work 70hrs this week.”
“There is a right way to doing things-- even if that way completely fucks you over because you have no labor protections.”
I was just talking with my sister recently about our life-long strong feelings of rejection.
We both have ADHD and we’re medicated, but we didn’t start treatment until late into our lives (I was 33 when I first got diagnosed).
We speculate that because we struggle with executive dysfunction, we end up trapped in cycles of shame with the people in our lives. It’s really hard to love someone with severe ADHD or depression because any little thing can set back progress.
My sister and I both get easily overwhelmed by choices, options, priorities, tasking-- even just thinking is exhausting.
Because each brain is unique, the way that ADHD impacts you is different from one person to another, but for me it manifests into all of my emotions hitting me all at the same time, no matter what emotion makes the most sense. It’s horrible!
Just being awake exhausted me until I started taking medication and going to cognitive behavioral therapy-- and it ain’t cheap, let me tell you.
Before treatment, my family and friends would try their best but one bad interaction could easily send me into a spiral of rejection and self-neglect. I feel more in control nowadays but it’s always a work in progress.
I just tell myself to try to do a little bit better every day, because you have to have a lot of compassion for yourself and others around you.
It’s hard to ask others to love you when you don’t have a mental disability, it’s even harder when you do have one.
Please try to be compassionate towards any people you know who may be trapped in this cycle.
And if you are trapped in it, please know that healing begins with you loving and taking care of yourself, even if you can only manage a tiny little bit each day.