Keelah Se’lai.

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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • I’ve worked retail, office jobs, call center jobs and warehouse jobs. I made an office ‘friend’ in two of those jobs. One who id grab drinks with outside of work and another who id chat to via text occasionally. But as our jobs changed and lives moved on. So did we.

    I don’t feel the need to be forced into social situations, people are tiring and there’s better things I could spend my time on that being shoved into a room with co-works who I have no interest in talking to and have no interest in talking to me.

    Both my best friends are long distance friends. I’ve known one for 13 years, we’ve met up once. And one for 9 years who I’ve never met in person. And they’re the best friends I’ve ever had. If they have issues, I’m right there via text or call to help. Same if I have issues. We send eachother gifts for birthdays/ Christmas, or just because. The 9 year friend and I do a book trade and recommend eachother things we think the other would like (not just book recommendations).

    My partner and I have been together for almost 2 years now, we live in different countries. And it’s honestly the best relationship I’ve ever had. Not because of the distance, we visit eachother multiple times a year. But the distance also isn’t an issue.

    So long distance friendships/ relationships can work.

    Just because some people need that face to face interaction, doesn’t mean everyone else does. Especially when it’s forced by a workplace. If it was to meet up with a friend, I’m sure it would be more welcomed. But being made to meet up with co-workers who aren’t friends/ close with, that sounds miserable. Being made to do something you don’t want to do/ aren’t interested in is never fun. Ever try get a teenager to clean their room? Often not very high on their list because it’s something they don’t want to do. The same can be said for social events with co-workers for a lot of people.


  • thepixelfox@kbin.socialtoGreentextAnon tries to lighten the mood
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    7 months ago

    I was using odd as a catchall term, plus I was tired and couldn’t think of better phrasing. And I was using it to try and question why is it generally a common thing to label something as autism just because it isn’t a socially ‘acceptable’ response.

    Non autistic people can be just as socially inept. And not every autistic person is socially inept. So it’s just tedious seeing a lot of stuff labelled as autism, when it could be a plethora of other things.


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    7 months ago

    Oh, okay then. Sorry for getting defensive, I just see this kind of thing a lot. And I know that people are quick to label social difficulties as autism, so it gets kinda of tiring that people generally label everything out of the ordinary as being autism.

    Question, if you don’t mind.
    Does not being able to interpret others emotions make you anxious or avoid talking to people?
    I’m oddly hypersensitive to others emotions, which can be pretty tiring in itself actually. So I’m curious how it affects someone who isn’t.


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    7 months ago

    Yes, I’m well aware of that. I went through the whole diagnosis process.

    But, it’s not always a symptom. You don’t have to tick every box in the symptom list. Some autistic people have that symptom, some don’t. None autistic people can have social issues too, it gets kinda tiring seeing every social issue being labelled as autism.









  • Listen sweetheart. I’m saying drag queens wear make up as it’s an aggregated form of art for showbusiness. So take a seat at the back of the class and actually learn reading comprehension.

    I said drag queens aren’t the ones saying women need to wear makeup. I’m saying society is. And drag queens wear makeup as a form of art. What’s so hard to understand about that.

    Clearly you just hate drag queens. If your fragile female ego takes a beating cause a drag queen looks better than you. That’s a you problem.

    As a woman who doesn’t wear makeup. I think drag queens are great. They’re funny. They’re amazing at their form of art. And they’re also in a group that gets hate from the world, as the majority are gay. So I’m all for them going out there and doing what to do despite the hate and shit they get from homophobic fuckwads.


  • So you’re not a woman because drag queens wear make up?
    Sounds like you’re a bit of a transphobe with your underhanded digs.

    Drag queens wear heavy makeup because they’re men, and it’s show business. It’s an exaggerated art form.

    It’s not drag queens who propagate the women wear makeup stero type. It’s been a societal pressure for years now. Just like shaving legs, it’s about what society wants women to look like. Women were and still are in a lot of places, seen as objects who need to look pretty and keep quiet.
    So don’t blame drag queens for an issue that has been pushed by society for a long ass time.

    If people want to identify as male or female, that’s their choice. And their choice doesn’t affect you. Just like a person you don’t know getting a tattoo doesn’t affect you. Their body. Their choice.


  • It’s easier to hope someone will have information on an individual who’s is reported on. Someone might see the article and realise they saw her in a coffee shop with a man, looking very uneasy. And tip off police.

    Whereas homelessness is a much harder thing to tackle. That requires government intervention rather than individual intervention from someone who saw something suspicious. And getting a government to care about homeless people is a huge ask.
    I hate that we have a homelessness issue, and I hate that it’s not reported on much at all. Things should be in the public eye, in hopes that people wrote to their local rep to try get help.

    But it’s more likely you’ll find a missing person (dead or alive) by posting an article than it is likely you’ll resolve homelessness.