People need to start asking clear consents before doing any sexual stuff.

Like before touching someone who is at the legal age, they should be asked clearly like “do you consent for being touched there” and it should be comfy and gult free, if the answer is no, then it should be accepted respectfully.

  • southsamurai
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    64 months ago

    This is a pretty common opinion tbh.

    That being said, the way you phrased it is horrible, and that’s the unpopular part.

    The whole asking for content while using the word consent is just a shitty way to go about it. Unless you really want to take what should be an organic and mutual experience and turn it into a robotic mess. In which case, rock on.

    Also, it’s okay to gain consent before starting at all, by discussing boundaries and establishing a mutual respect for the concept of consent withdrawing. That way, you can all go into things, have some fun and not break the experience, but still honor good consent practice.

    Seriously, take some lessons from the kink communities. Establishing consent and boundaries before even starting play is the default concept with responsible play, the whole safe, sane, and consensual motto is there for a reason. But you can still apply a ball gag and run a train on someone when everything is handled beforehand.

    Fuck, just establish an always available safe word if you want. A magic word that means everything stops. And then a “slow down” phrase or word to indicate a “stop that particular thing you’re doing, but keep going in other ways”.

    Consent really isn’t that difficult if you embrace the concept and communicate