Nsfw warning

So, a 20 year old woman marries a 70 year old man.

On their wedding night, she goes into the bathroom to get ready for bed.

She comes out and her new husband is standing there, fully erect with a condom on, with a clothes pin on his nose, and stuffing cotton into his ears.

She asks him what the heck is going on, he says "if there’s two things I can’t stand, it’s the screams of a woman and the smell of burning rubber.

Wanna read an old man/ young wife joke?

I’m not sure I have anything that can help you directly. Things are looking ugly as hell right now, but it doesn’t look like most people here with a green card are going to be treated badly. At least not yet.

But more in general, the way I’m coping is multi tiered.

The primary is by being ready for what I can be ready for. The secondary is helping other people be as ready as they can be (though that’s a fucking minimum right now, as I’m recovering from an injury). Third is local organization and planning, which I can do while injured at least.

Then there’s just getting on with life as best I can. I kiss my wife, hug my kid, pet my chickens, fuck around on lemmy, whatever.

That last, that’s what I’d suggest you focus on. Nobody ever has a promise of tomorrow. You could get struck by lightning, hit by a car, whatever. Worrying about the governmental shit beyond your ability to fight it if the fight pops off is pointless. Just enjoy the now, and be prepared as best you can.

I’m a little late to the party, I’ve written and edited four books, plus numerous short stories on Linux mint. Libreoffice does the job just fine, as others already mentioned.

The great thing about starting out is that it’s pretty easy to try whatever distributions you want, piddle around a little, and choose what you like best. You’re leaning towards mint, and that’s actually what I use, and have used.

It’s also a great beginner’s distro because it’s essentially plug and play. You install, open up, and you can jump right into basic activities with minimum effort. Which means that the Linux learning curve is much lighter than you’d think because you’ll be working while you learn.

No bullshit, my mom transitioned to mint in one day. Only hurdles were installing chrome, because that’s what she likes, and the five hours she took tweaking the theme. She’s a low needs user: browser, email, pictures. Her PC was choking on Windows 10 after the “upgrade” years ago, and wanted to try something else just for the hell of it. Now she does her own updates, doesn’t even bother to call me.

As a side note, I feel you. The last few years have been brutal. We’re all feeling some degree of stress from it, but those of us with preexisting issues end up a notch higher than we should be. It ain’t easy, but none of us are really alone in the struggle.

Pretty much total, if the admin or admins want to exercise it.

It’s on their hardware (literally or figuratively), and they’re responsible for what happens on their instance (up to a point).

However, that’s not all instances, at least not in a practical sense. I can’t remember which ones are which, but some of them are set up where no single person can engage in fuckery without being checked. Yeah, at some point someone could pull a literal plug, or otherwise flip the table on that, but it isn’t going to be easy.

The good thing is that it doesn’t matter. I’m on sh.itjust.works. If it folds today, with no warning, all I lose is my user history. Even that, it’s really only the ones thaw are only on this instance. The stuff on other ones is still there, I just can’t do anything with it.

But I could, if I hadn’t already, just sign up on another one, and by way of being a prolific bastard, not skip a beat. Since I regularly export my info, subscriptions and blocks and such (I can’t recall what all does and doesn’t get transferred), I can just import that to wherever, and it really isn’t noticeable on my end.

However, it’s on me if in not backing up my comments that I feel have value. Same as on any platform, there’s no guarantee of tomorrow. You always back up anything you want to keep that isn’t already on your own hardware. My two accounts under my pen name, I copy/paste everything I write into a notepad and back up those files.

Of equal import is that once a given instance goes too crazy, it’s likely to get defederated. So one that goes deep into censorship won’t be a major problem for long, and that’s been the case a few times.

Ahhh, considering the rules of the community, the nature of the post itself, that’s ptb.

I can’t say it’s PTB, just ptb, because it’s more stupid than serious power tripping in the literal sense, but why the fuck that comment was the one to get removed out of all the rest, I have no clue.

Definitely overreach, jokes are specifically allowed, and nothing in that comment approaches anything resembling rudeness to another user, there’s no hidden bigotry, and it’s a fucking meme C/. Like, damn.

Yeah, not every joke hits, but that’s for votes to sort out.

However, fuck your title here. There’s times and places where that kind of joke is fine, but in a title on a community that isn’t humor based ain’t it

Jfc, I must be odd, because I can’t even

You know, we might just see it in our lifetime.

It’s decades away, assuming the stuff that’s in the pipeline works and can be applied for trans people.

It will take some serious work though. The uterus is kinda the easy part, in that they’ve technically been transplantable hypothetically for a while now, and there’s space for them to go

It’s all the other “stuff” that’s difficult. Not gonna go into detail, even behind a spoiler, because discussion of it has caused pain to people I know irl, and I’m not risking that here. But, assuming transition ahead of transplantation of all the organs and structures needed to give vaginal birth goes well, that transplantation is “just” modification of existing surgeries in use for cis women.

I think we’d see caesarians first, which would be incredible in and of itself.

I doubt it’ll ever reach 100% success, what with the difficulties of transplantation in the first place, but it should eventually be an option that’s no more or less medically an issue than what people currently go through.

Ehhh, I’m torn on the vote for this

On One hand, it is unpopular, in that nobody really thinks this. It’s also unpopular because I think most people, if not damn near everyone, would think it’s stupid and reject it entirely based on the obvious flaws in the comparison even if they didn’t disagree.

However, the post looks like rage bait, and you complained about voting, then you veer into mild nastiness. Which makes it likely the post was rage bait.

If you hadn’t edited in the crap, I’d have up voted because the original post was a perfect fit for the C/. But, dude, that edit is just lame. So I had to down vote.

You make a post in a community like this, you take the votes as they come. You don’t whine about them, and you don’t turn it into some kind of ego weirdness.

No doubt!

Man, I love that song.

Isbell is a jerk, but he’s a fucking poet for sure

Not really, but there’s a few I can’t listen to when I drive because I know I’m going to cry, and that ain’t safe

Travelin soldier, the Dixie chicks version is a big one.

Then there’s still my hero, by jellyroll. I’m dealing with some of that stuff now, and it’s fucking brutal.

There’s others, because I’m a sappy old bastard, but I don’t reckon you want a big list

Man, this whole eating booty thing has gone too far

Okay, okay, enough of this.

I’m going to have to poke myself in the eye to deal with the level of cute here.

Not fair

Ooo, yeah, and then you lick it, then stick your tongue right into the sticky center and ream it out like it owes you money

I dunno, looks like some blatant self promotion at the very least.

I dig that quote.

One of the things my grandfather drilled into me that guns are a responsibility, not just a tool. You mess up with a hammer, you bust a thumb. You mess up with a rifle, someone can die.

Marksmanship, and the process of developing it, really is about self control. On so many levels, not just the obvious. Like, breathing. The way you do it, and when you hold it, syncing it up to your aim, then the control of how you squeeze the trigger.

If you can’t control yourself with shooting, there’s a pretty good chance you’ll have trouble in other ways too. Conversely, shooting helps develop that awareness, the patience and self reflection, that makes for a solid person in general. Not that there aren’t other ways to develop that, there are. But it’s a pretty damn good option

My kid’s cat used to do that. She’d rub herself on a slicker brush forever if you’d sit and let her.

Well, it reads as just silly kid stuff. Kids do dumb shit because they’re kids.

The important part is whether or not it was traumatic to you, not whether it was sexual, or abuse, or sexual abuse.

It doesn’t seem like it did. It seems more like it was just weird and that was that, and that you’re looking back on it as something more than it was then. This isn’t to minimize your experiences, it’s just saying that your phrasing and the question itself point towards it not being traumatic at the time.

Was it inappropriate? Yeah, but it’s very likely nothing bad was meant by it. Even if it was sexual on his end, that doesn’t mean he was intentionally breaking consent in a conscious way, or that kids making mistakes like that is inherently a bad thing overall. Something can be inappropriate, but not wrong because if someone lacks the capacity to understand that it’s wrong, it just isn’t the same thing as when they do, and choose to perform a hurtful act.

Me? I think I’d just let it go and not worry about it if possible. If it isn’t possible, then it might mean there’s issues with it that need resolution with external help, so the attempt to do so kinda serves as a self diagnosis. If you’re able to easily put it aside, then it wasn’t traumatic (or not enough to matter).

It may help you to know that that kind of thing is super common. Over on reddit, there was a sub called morbid questions, and I couldn’t begin to tell you how often people would ask what you’re asking, with the same or similar circumstances. Kids get dumb ideas, and lack the inhibition to not act on it. Kids can engage in sexual abuse, yes, but there is a difference between that and just doing something rude like slapping an ass. It’s about intent, extent, and situation.

It may also help to know that, even if your friend did intend it as a sexual act, and did so knowing that it wasn’t acceptable behavior, that you aren’t obligated to feel any specific way about it. You don’t have to feel the same as someone else might; you don’t have to be okay with it because someone else is, you don’t have to be upset because someone else is. Your experience is yours.

Thank you!