I’m sure this is due at least in part to some sort of self-fulfilling prophecy, as I can identify with and relate to others like me and vice versa, while neuotypicals tend to not tolerate my idiosyncrasies etc. Either way, it sucks being all “I had a social obligation early in the day and it was exhausting but it’s done, I had some time to recharge and I don’t feel like isolating for once” but all I get back is crickets. I don’t blame anyone in the least - everyone’s got their own shit they’re dealing with. It’s just disheartening.
Just so you know, the all feed brings all kinds of communities and instances to folks that don’t necessarily have a connection to them (or not a direct one). So, you may end up with neurotypical people responding (including me, depending on how you define neurodivergence; no autism, but some adhd here)
But you’re not the only one dawdling dealing with life crises in your circle. The world is kinda going crazy in a lot of ways, so everyone is having trouble coping. That nestles right in with long term mental health issues and neurological issues that have mental health symptoms.
So, I hope you don’t get too disheartened. There’s still going to be times when things sync up, and your circle will be able to interact with you while you’re also able to with them. That’s the good thing about life, on a long enough time scale there’s plenty of good times to go with the bad. Well, until the end, but that’s a different thing.
Fwiw, us neurotypical/non-autistic folks know that our idiosyncrasies can be hard to tolerate too. It can be hard bridging a brain difference that’s big enough, no matter where on the spectrum of human neurology someone is. All any of us can do is try