So I’ve been trying to figure out my sexuality and what sort of stuff I like, and I’ve stumbled upon a bit of a roadblock; I just don’t find vaginas or dicks that attractive. If I’m watching some porn or whatever and they zoom in to people’s junk, that’s a bit of a turn off. Honestly they just look like messy meat to me.

So I figured I’d ask; do you like dick/vagina pics? How much does it matter for how attractive you find someone?

… And you know what, since I’m asking things, shaven or unshaven?

  • southsamurai
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    42 months ago

    Well, context does matter, but yeah.

    I used to be a nurse’s assistant, so I’ve been up close and personal with something over a thousand individual sets of genitals, by my best estimate, in a professional, non sexual context. Then there’s the personal sexual context, and the personal non sexual context.

    Overall, I’ve never seen an ugly pussy or dick that wasn’t diseased in some way. No bullshit, there just isn’t such a thing as an ugly genital configuration that isn’t the result of something going wrong. There are asymmetric, and startlingly atypical genitals. And there’s genitals that are at the extremes of possibilities. Those can fail to be sexually attractive, but then again, all dicks are in that category for me; I can appreciate the beauty of the penis, but I’m hetero.

    Truth though? They are all “messy meat” when you zoom in, be it in camera or in real life. When genitals are visually disconnected from a fellow human being, there’s a difference in how they’re perceived.

    When it comes to pussy, which is what I’m sexually attracted to in the context of this post (outside of this, the rest of the human matters a lot more), I tend to enjoy a wide range of the possibilities. Anything from petite innies to the most voluminous labia. Hairy, trimmed, shaved, they’re all fine by me, with the caveat that shaving has to be done regularly or I’m not going down because stubble sucks lol.

    I don’t particularly enjoy pics of genitals without the rest of the person. It’s the entirety of a person that interests me sexually, the genitals are just one small aspect that is only slightly more interesting than a finger or toe, by themselves. But, when a pic like that is shared with me by the person as a form of sexual interaction, I enjoy them a lot! But not unsolicited, and I would still prefer to see more of the area than onlythe genitals. A little belly, some thighs, whatever.

    But my job did play a big role in that. Back when I was 16, before I started taking care of patients, genitals by themselves were inherently sexual to me. You just didn’t normally see them, and that makes them matter more, particularly when you’re a horny teenager wanting you experience more sexual activity. My first female patient that wasn’t very old was a bit confusing because there was still a part of me telling the rest of me that I should be having sexual thoughts because vagina, but I wasn’t experiencing those thoughts because they were a patient.

    Context matters so much when it comes to what is and isn’t arousing. You may be more like me, where just the images of genitals aren’t “real”, because they’re not an actual person, they’re an image of a person. Kinda like the famous pipe painting.

    But! I do enjoy a good artistic photograph of genitals. There’s as much beauty there as in the curve of an arm or a smile, or whatever. It just isn’t a sexual enjoyment, and it needs to be a well made image. That’s true of penises too, I enjoy male nudes almost as much as female nudes in that regard. Humans can be very beautiful when framed right; as beautiful as flowers, or sunsets or whatever. I do still prefer whole body shots, but genitals are beautiful on their own when done well.

    When it comes to porn (pun intended), I’m extremely picky. Once I got old enough to realize how shitty porn is in comparison to real human sexuality, it started losing its ability to arouse. I can’t say it never works, but the last decade or two, porn has lost all pretense of humanity. It’s all so empty and mechanical now that it’s often a turn off entirely.