In some ways it seems manipulative. Sometimes it is indeed a yes or no question, but most people know that certain answers require further explanation. It gives off the impression that you don’t wanna hear someone’s side of the story/debate. Sometimes “yes, but” or “no, but” is warranted.

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    4 months ago

    here’s an explanation of textbook gaslighting highlighting your phrase specifically:

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-mental-health-revolution/202203/i-m-sorry-you-feel-way-and-other-gaslighting-tactics

    if you don’t know you’re being manipulative, you should take a step back and be more careful with your language, you’re very rude and entitled and it doesn’t make me want to help you.

    if you want information, ask.

    “You’re right no one owes me anything.”

    great.

    “but if you’re gonna say it’s not unpopular, at least explain why.”

    you still haven’t asked any questions, so I’ll redirect you to your only self-aware statement:

    “You’re right no one owes me anything.”

    if you want information, ask for it.