• taladar
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    5 hours ago

    Then why is it okay to harass people with stupid “You just have to be brave enough to ask her?” style posts, those probably hurt anyone who tried that and got rejected.

    • grue@lemmy.world
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      5 hours ago

      Okay, I’ll explain it clearly for the incels among us:

      Asking a woman out once is perfectly fine*. It also might be okay to try again after a while if she said “no” that first time, if your relationship evolves and circumstances change.

      When it becomes harassment is when you refuse to take “no” for an answer and do it repeatedly with no legitimate reason to believe that she changed her mind.

      (* Assuming there isn’t something like a power imbalance going on, in which case you either never ask or you resign from your position of power over her before asking.)