• Grandwolf319
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    1 month ago

    Idk who needs to hear this but:

    Your children don’t owe you self assurance, if they chose to cut contact with you fully then that’s their right.

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      1 month ago

      He’s not saying they have no right, he’s saying he’s sad they won’t come to thanksgiving. Pretty simple. You can say its justified sure, but it doesnt change his perspective any.

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          1 month ago

          I simply disagree but we won’t really be able to follow up with the guy anyways.

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          1 month ago

          He’s looking for sympathy because he’s sad.

      • AbsentBird@lemm.ee
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        I’m not sure I understand what you’re talking about. You’re related to a couple who have a son who went no contact, but it had nothing to do with politics or abuse? I’m not sure how that maps onto this situation.

        I know some people who have gone no contact due to manipulative dynamics, though the parents refuse to acknowledge they’ve ever done anything wrong. E.g. financial manipulation, or refusing to use their child’s preferred pronouns. I feel like if the parents apologized, acknowledged the problem, and made a commitment to change it would make everyone happier. Not sure how that applies to your story, but that’s been my experience.