my dad specifically has really been feeding into hypermasculine, gun-loving, “true American” MAGA nonsense. I am gay and while he has no issue with me or my partner he continues to align himself with people who do not believe in my right to exist. He didn’t believe Elon did a nazi salute. He said I was listening to the liberal propaganda. Now that trump has pulled out all the stops and continues to implement project 2025, I question whether I can still be in contact with him. Even if he is not (outwardly) rooting on everything, him not condemning what is happening to me seems like he is doubling down on his beliefs.

I am drained mentally and honestly think that he will continue supporting the destruction of this country and the rights of millions all because he idealizes their “alignment” with masculinity, guns, the military, traditions, etc.

How do I approach the topic with him and tell him it’s either me or these beliefs/trump? Is that selfish of me? I know some people say that this will only further the divide but honestly I feel like things now are irreperable and I should not be involved with people who turn a blind eye to fascism.

  • ArbitraryValueEnglish
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    1 天前

    There’s no benefit to cutting contact as a matter of principle. It won’t impede Trump even a little and it probably won’t change your dad’s political views either. Is he willing to avoid talking to you about politics? Do you enjoy his company when he isn’t talking about politics? If the answers to these questions are “yes” then I see no good reason to hurt him and yourself by cutting contact.

    I think that every two people in my family have serious disagreements about some issue, but the world wouldn’t become a better place if we all argued and then stopped talking to each other.

    • magnetosphere@fedia.io
      9·
      1 天前

      The “benefit” is OPs mental health. That counts for quite a bit.

      This isn’t merely a difference of opinion. OP is gay, and OPs father is knowingly supporting a group that hates gay people. No amount of kind words can ever overcome that.

      … the world wouldn’t become a better place if we all argued and then stopped talking to each other.

      That’s entirely true. Unfortunately, MAGA supporters are far beyond more moderate Republicans. The father’s beliefs are so extreme that no compromise is possible.