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  • ArbitraryValuetoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldFeelin free
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    Does it matter what your “default” state is? If you’re safe until I threaten to harm you unless you comply with my demands, then I’m obviously oppressing you. If you’re in danger until I offer to rescue you only if you comply with my demands, your options are the same (either harm or compliance) but the two situations don’t intuitively feel morally equivalent to me.

    With that said, humans do innately interpret an offer of rescue contingent on paying a very high price as a form of compulsion. Someone who makes such an offer is going to be viewed much more negatively than someone who simply does not offer to help at all. Maybe it’s a way of making credible threats?

    A purely logical person cannot negotiate with the rescuer, because the rescuer knows that purely logical people will pay any price. However, a person known to be irrational and willing to die rather than be taken advantage of can negotiate. There’s a trade-off between the advantage of negotiating and the very high price of failing to come to an agreement, and I suppose the strength of humans’ innate intolerance for unfairness has been tuned by evolution to attain this balance (or perhaps it attained balance in our ancestral environment but no longer does in our civilized state).


  • ArbitraryValuetoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldFeelin free
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    I think that those are different meanings of the word “oppressive”, which has a moral component when referring to human actions but not when referring to natural phenomena. You can only be wronged by another person, not by nature.

    Imagine the following scenarios:

    1. You’re alone on the planet. You struggle to survive.

    2. Now there’s a wealthy person on the other side of the planet, where his lifestyle has no effect on you. He could rescue you but he chooses not to.

    3. The wealthy person offers to rescue you on the condition that you must work for him. He would get most of the products of your labor but survival would still be easier than it was when you were alone.

    4. Now you have no choice except to accept the wealthy person’s offer. Survival is still easier than it would be if you were alone, but there isn’t anywhere left where you could survive alone.

    Your life is oppressive in each of these scenarios in the sense that simply surviving is difficult and there’s no possibility of improvement. However, there’s clearly no moral component to that in (1) because you are alone, and (4) seems like it almost certainly has a moral component. However, in every steps from (1) to (4) you’re either better off or not worse off than you were before. Where does the moral component come from?













  • Are you really ok with a relationship in which your wife doesn’t want to touch you? I’m your age and I recently ended a long-term relationship with a woman who also made me smile often. It was very difficult for me to do that because I enjoyed her company and even more so because I didn’t want to hurt her, but ultimately I decided that a relationship where I wasn’t getting and probably never would be getting something I needed didn’t work for me even if it was a good relationship in many other ways.

    I’m not telling you to end your relationship. It’s possible that your relationship is still the right one for you. However, the compromise you’re proposing here wouldn’t make most other people happy if they were in your situation. Make sure that you’re being honest with yourself. If I had been honest with myself, I would have ended my relationship years earlier than I did and that would have been better both for me and for my ex.





  • ArbitraryValuetoFunnyHe speaks the truth
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    I was surprisingly old (about 10 or 11) before I understood on an emotional level that “everybody dies” meant that the people I cared about would die. Before that time, I could have logically reasoned that these people were a part of “everyone” but I still felt like they would live forever.

    What I’m saying is that I think it’s realistic that Simba knew that if there was a new king then the old king was dead, but he never really thought about what that meant about his own life.