Is that just bicurious? (I’m asking in general, not as myself because I’m bi for sure.)
I know people probably ask this a lot but I genuinely want to know now.
Is that just bicurious? (I’m asking in general, not as myself because I’m bi for sure.)
I know people probably ask this a lot but I genuinely want to know now.
If you aren’t attracted to them but you want to date them, what would you end up doing that you wouldn’t do with a friend?
I’m not the OP, but their question was pretty much describing me.
For me, it’s about intimacy. I value intimacy. Hugging, kissing, touching, holding hands, sharing moments, laying on the couch together watching TV etc. Those are things that I don’t do with my friends, and aren’t things that I’m looking for from my friends.
Asexual folk have developed language that talks about the way they navigate similar situations. Sex averse, sex neutral and sex positive. So even though I’m not ace, the terms apply in a similar way to my relationships. Using these terms, I would describe myself as sex neutral. Which is to say that I don’t seek it out, and I don’t miss it. Yet, it’s also a very strong form of intimacy, which I value a great deal, and as an expression of intimacy, it’s very much something I’m happy to share with my partner.
That makes sense. I’m not sure if OP understands what they want and didn’t clarify it in the post, or if they still need to figure that out for themself
Said person just finds women hot but wouldn’t get jealous nor have sex
What’s the desire to date women, then?
I have no idea, it’s either because she finds women aesthetically pleasing or she thinks finding a woman pretty = being attracted to women even though “I can’t find women that attract me” contradicts being into women.
I have another friend who could imagine dating a woman and also didn’t find them attractive. She was straight.
I could imagine being a bumblebee, but that doesn’t mean I have any intention of transforming into one or anything! Haha
That’s very true!!
Honestly, with the friend example, she can imagine dating women, but it doesn’t mean she would/likes them that way. She’s still straight. Plus, it’s very rare to be 100% attracted to one gender anyway, but sexuality is a spectrum, and it’s still straight.
I’m a lesbian sexually. I haven’t tried sex with a man. I can imagine doing it, but I’ve only felt sexually attracted to my girlfriend, who’s obviously a woman. Despite being a lesbian, it doesn’t mean I’m 100% only sexually attracted to women and can’t even imagine doing it with a dude. It’s a fluid spectrum that changes over time.
And the other girl who this post is about may be like our friend (Mine and hers). She can imagine dating women and wouldn’t object (because it’s rare to be 100% attracted to only one gender), but since she can’t find a woman who attracts her and only men give her a spark, she might be straight, bicurious, or at least biromantic heterosexual. Still, in order to be biromantic/bisexual, you have to feel romantic or sexual attraction to both genders, and what she said contradicts that, as she seems to feel romantic and sexual attraction towards the opposite gender. (Straight)