I (20M) am currently interested in a girl named G,19F, who goes to the same college as me, we hit it off rather well and I’m trying to get to know her more. however recently she became buddies with someone I know, R(don’t know his age), he is someone who I admittedly don’t know too well but I can tell he wants G. he managed to get her number and the two are talking a lot and he’s taking her to get food between classes. I just found this out not too long ago and I don’t know what to do. I don’t have a car, I don’t know how to drive, I am broke constantly due to loaning out money to my family for one reason or another. I simply can’t compete and it hurts too much, I can’t stop thinking of the two of them together. and how much better R is than me. I’m thinking about cutting G off because of this, i feel some unhealthy amounts of aggression towards both of them and i can tell my jealousy will grow from here.
This is is not about you or how much money you have to spend. No one has enough to spend when they’re a student. She’s not committed to anyone and can do as she likes. Your feelings are natural, but they might be misplaced. If you’re interested in her romantically, you could let her know in a way that doesn’t put pressure on her and she will potentially let you know how she feels about you. If she doesn’t reciprocate your feelings, bow out of your friendship with respect and charity for her and for yourself. You will have taken a great risk. Every risk you take helps you to grow as a man. Whatever she says in response, you haven’t lost a thing, in fact, you may be liberating yourself to pursue something even better with someone else.