• @starman2112
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    10 months ago

    So we’re in agreement that if you intentionally harass someone, you may be charged with harassment, and that simply using the wrong pronouns while not harassing someone isn’t harassment. What are you upset about again?

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      -510 months ago

      Do we also count harassment if the person being wrong just doesn’t believe in the pronouns, or just purposefully trying to upset you?

      If yes, I guess.

      If no, no.

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        10 months ago

        If a court decides it’s harassment, then you could be charged with harassment. No court is going to charge someone with harassment because they simply didn’t know what pronouns to use. The burden is on me to prove that you are intentionally using the wrong pronouns, even though you know the correct pronouns, in an effort to discriminate against me because of my gender identity.

        Again, show me literally anyone who has ever been jailed for using the wrong pronouns.

        Again, I don’t know what you’re upset about. It is as clear as possible. Don’t do something that you know a court of law would consider harassment. It really is that simple. If you know that what you’re doing could be considered a crime in a court of law, don’t do it. If you don’t know that what you’re doing could be considered a crime in a court of law, go ahead. If you know that what you’re doing is gonna upset someone for no good reason, don’t do it. If you don’t realize that what you’re doing is gonna upset someone, go ahead and do it.

        If I say my pronouns are, in fact, they/them, you have absolutely no reason not to use them. Don’t say you don’t believe in pronouns. Everyone has pronouns. You have pronouns. If you don’t want to use the right pronouns for me, that’s fine. But don’t intentionally use the wrong pronouns for me, after I’ve told you what the right ones are, as an attempt to make me feel bad.

        It can’t be any simpler. Don’t fucking harass people. It’s not confusing. You may be confused as to why someone would have pronouns that you don’t like, and that’s fine. You don’t have to use them. You can even use the wrong ones. Just don’t do shit that’s gonna get a judge to say “you’re harassing this person with your ridiculous antics, cut it the fuck out.”

        It literally cannot be simpler. Just do what you’re already doing, but do it for trans and nonbinary people too.

        • @PsychedSy
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          110 months ago

          Out of curiosity, do you know if any tribunal cases, based on simple pronouns, have been ruled on?

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            10 months ago

            Here’s one case

            https://www.them.us/story/canadian-court-rules-misgendering-human-rights-violation

            So yeah, intentionally using nicknames and pronouns that someone has explicitly said they do not want used is both a dick move and illegal. The punishment was, of course, not jail time.

            The tribunal ordered Buono Osteria to implement a formal pronoun policy, as well as mandatory diversity and inclusion training for all managers and staff. The restaurant and specific offenders responsible for the behavior will pay Nelson $30,000 in damages, according to the CBC.

            Don’t get it twisted though. Nelson didn’t just decide to take them to court for easy quick money. They tried to get their manager to use the right pronouns and cut the nicknames out numerous times, until the restaurant fired them. This is absolutely not a case of someone accidentally using the wrong pronouns and being punished for it, this was legitimate, actual discrimination based on this person’s gender identity.

            Also another case. Not surprisingly, normal, functioning people can see the difference between genuine expressions of gender, and alt-right trolls.

            • @PsychedSy
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              110 months ago

              My hope is to see a boring case shutdown rather than legitimate ones upheld.