• funkless_eck
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    Fairy is a homophobic term. You may think it’s acceptable, but I’ve lived through homophobic abuse, so have many others but there is a very good reason I’m offended by the term.

    Homophobia has no place in modern society, and no amount of nihilistic sophistry will change my mind.

    I so I will be offended by you calling me a fairy, fag/faggot, shirt lifter, battyboy, fudgepacker…

    I’m two generations removed and on the wrong side of the family try to be considered jewish, but close enough that some living relatives are practicing Jews. I will also take offense at you using the word Jew and you using it in the way the post intends.

    Not because I’m a sissy fairy fag cocksucker, which I am, but because I’m big enough and ugly enough to tell you to go fuck yourself with your pseduo-intellectual circumlocution.

    You say yourself, “it’s not the word but how you use it” and then go on to use it as an epithet. There is nothing wrong with using the word fairy to describe Tinkerbell, or the mascot of absinthe, but when you proudly use it as an insult you’re being a hypocrite, you are using it exactly in an offensive way.

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        German gays call use the term “Tunte” quite a bit, somewhere in between “faggot” and “fruit”. And yes they mean it as an insult – not for being gay, but for sticking out your little finger when drinking prosecco, approximately. The polar opposite of flannel shirt.

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        I am one of the dozens of people in the world who wasn’t educated in America, so you know what they say about assuming.

        Your first paragraph repeats my point so I’m glad we agree, and your second paragraph also mostly agrees with me. What I would say you haven’t understood is that you said you call people fairies, and indeed “r/tards”, in an offensive manner and demand we’re not offended. You can’t police other people’s reactions. What’s the difference from saying “ah yes, but when I rob a bank it shouldn’t be illegal because I’m special!”

        I see your point - again - about how it’s the usage - yes, but I’ll say, also again, that my issue is with your usage.

        It’s ironic you would complain about my education and accuse me of missing the point when it’s your comprehension that’s at issue here.

        Finally, I’d like you to explain how “r/tard” can be used in a non-offensice context.

        • 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 ℹ️@yiffit.net
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          Finally, I’d like you to explain how “r/tard” can be used in a non-offensice context.

          “This new extinguisher excells at retarding a fire.”

          “The silencer retarded the sound of the firearm.”

          Its pretty damn easy to use words inoffensively if you know the definition of them. Retarded isn’t just a description of the mentally handicapped; it means to be held back, slowed down, or restrained.

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          If you still don’t get it let me know what you don’t understand and I’ll bust out the crayons and we can get to figuring out which ones you like the taste of. (Clue: This is offensive but uses no offensive words, because context)