• Kecessa
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    1 year ago

    “You wouldn’t like being called anon anon, would you?”

    Why do women still take their husband’s name in the first place? The practice has been banned since 1981 over here and some people go get married the next province over so the woman can change her family name but when the couple comes back home they still have to use their original name for any interaction with the government and that’s what’s on their government delivered ID, it’s fucking ridiculous.

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      1 year ago

      I’m fine with a woman choosing not to change her name, but banning the practice altogether seems a bit weird.

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        It’s not from a governmental perspective, it complicates everything whenever people change their name and tracking files between ministries becomes a nightmare.

        Heck, I had a client from the next province over and that lady had to show me three pieces of ID before we found one where her last name matched her proof she got vaccinated and the only one that did match wasn’t a legal piece of ID! She still had her late husband’s name on one, the name of her new husband on another and her maiden name on the last one.

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          This is one of the good things about Social Security numbers in the US. Doesn’t matter what your name is, you’re still a number.

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            Yeah but it wasn’t meant to be a piece of ID, heck it doesn’t have a picture on it, and we also have a social security number in Canada and there’s a name associated to it.

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      Why shouldn’t they? They take everything else, the house, the car, the kids, the gardener…

      /boomerhumor

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      It’s…banned? What if a woman wants to take their husband’s last name (or vice versa) ? It helps seal a marriage as a union in some people’s eyes.

      Edit: I can’t read

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        I think you meant last/family name :p

        The answer is that they can’t.

        It used to be an obligation to change your name to your husband’s and the civil code reform made it so the government only interacts with people using their birth name when it comes to their civil rights, only those married before the 2nd of April 1981 were allowed (but not forced to) keep using their married name. The change was asked for by women at the time and most that were married before 1981 started using their maiden name as time passed (both my 90 y.o. grandmothers do for example).

        So you can’t legally change your name to your husband’s, you’re still free to call yourself whatever you want but it won’t match your ID.