Social media is partly to blame. I feel this is also the fault of bad parenting. Not that the parents were bad people, but they definitely neglected their child on teaching them social skills. A man doesn’t become like this out of the blue the moment they turn 18 and move out of the house. Like I see men like that often in my Asian community, many Asian parents force their kids to study hard and tell them they can’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend until they have graduated college. And often they don’t even have friends because they don’t have time to hang with other people of their age. Boys raised in such a household are socially deprived and end up friendless and socially inept as an adult and if they have friends it’s often men who had the same youth so it’s just a circlejerk of virgin men who can’t teach each other skills to get out of the hole they are in. And then the parents are surprised that their adult son in his late 20’s or 30’s is still not married.
I grew up homeschooled. I spent the first 18 years of my life basically locked in a house. I didn’t really have friends. I only got to see people around my age (aside from my siblings) a handful of times a year.
Good fucking lord, has that been a social pit to climb out of. I still don’t know how to make friends.
Weirdly enough, I’ve never had much trouble dating. But goddamn, platonic relationships are so fucking elusive.
Social media is partly to blame. I feel this is also the fault of bad parenting. Not that the parents were bad people, but they definitely neglected their child on teaching them social skills. A man doesn’t become like this out of the blue the moment they turn 18 and move out of the house. Like I see men like that often in my Asian community, many Asian parents force their kids to study hard and tell them they can’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend until they have graduated college. And often they don’t even have friends because they don’t have time to hang with other people of their age. Boys raised in such a household are socially deprived and end up friendless and socially inept as an adult and if they have friends it’s often men who had the same youth so it’s just a circlejerk of virgin men who can’t teach each other skills to get out of the hole they are in. And then the parents are surprised that their adult son in his late 20’s or 30’s is still not married.
I grew up homeschooled. I spent the first 18 years of my life basically locked in a house. I didn’t really have friends. I only got to see people around my age (aside from my siblings) a handful of times a year.
Good fucking lord, has that been a social pit to climb out of. I still don’t know how to make friends.
Weirdly enough, I’ve never had much trouble dating. But goddamn, platonic relationships are so fucking elusive.