• mrpants
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    1 year ago

    As a straight male I feel nothing looking at buff men and I can assure you it’s the same for many other men. We truly don’t feel much looking at them and they’re not presented this way for our gaze.

    About the only guys I know that do care are caring because they’re insecure about their own bodies. Especially friends who exercise regularly to try to achieve these physiques.

    • LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      1 year ago

      That proves the point then doesn’t it? The way society assigns value to women based on their perceived attractiveness to men is attached to misogynistic propaganda. We tell girls how to look when they’re six months old. They already know they have to be deathly thin by the time they’re 10. Many girls developing eating disorders in fucking middle school. They almost only see women who exactly fit societies definition of attractiveness in every single movie. They get bullied, they see other girls being bullied for their weight. The size of their breasts becomes a subject of mockery when they’re not even in puberty yet. Their family members, their parents, will impose standards upon them. Their friends will, their teachers, every single adult they ever encounter.

      So you might see this and think nothing, just a bunch of buff guys. And that perfectly demonstrates it. This has no affect on you, you do not suffer oppressive conformation pressure due to every single aspect of your body and appearance. You don’t see yourself as having no value because you don’t look exactly like them, you don’t have every single person in your life every single piece of media in your life telling you that you have no value because you don’t look like them. We do, that’s something we deal with every single day. That’s something that literally kills us, that contributes immeasurable suffering into the world. It’s not even close to the same.

      • Aesthesiaphilia@kbin.social
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        1 year ago

        No one was even TALKING about that, why do you have to come here with your “oh women have it worse”. WE KNOW. THAT DOESN’T MEAN IT’S GREAT FOR US EITHER.

        Jesus.

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          1 year ago

          The commenter I am responding to made other comments, you should read them.

          Also saying women have it worse doesn’t even come close to it, you should re-read my comment.

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            1 year ago

            I don’t even want to get into what your comment says wrong because we shouldn’t even be having that discussion. You’re just belittling men’s issues. Can you just have one comment that doesn’t mention how bad women have it? Like, just one comment where you exclusively discuss male problems.

            • LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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              1 year ago

              I’m not the one who mentioned women, that was already happening in this thread. I responded to all the anti feminist takes here. That’s all I did. We’re on a post talking about body image issues, which in another comment I already said that men would benefit greatly from body positivity and better representation for diverse body types in media. Body image issues are definitely a thing for men too. I never said they weren’t. What I said is it is not comparable to the way body image is weaponized by misogyny against women. Because again, I was responding to people who were saying it was.

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      1 year ago

      That’s great for you. I’m glad that you’re secure in your self image. The people that these are targeted towards aren’t.

    • -☆-@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      1 year ago

      Whether it works on you or not. Whether it succeeds or not… The intent of the portrayal is a masculine power fantasy. Hell, it might be for the writer. Tony Stark (and 80% of all Marvel-men’s) ‘I’m an asshole but you love me for it’ vibe is the same thing really.