I am one of the admins of Beehaw and I’m trying to get some feedback on our potential move.
Let’s start out with a little Beehaw history before judgements are passed, please.
A handful of us were beta testing Tildes when we decided to have discussions on a Discord server.
We decided that our ‘Northern Star’ or guiding principle would culminate as ‘Be Nice’ with purposefully vague/flexible interpretations. Our overall goal is to provide a safe space to disenfranchised persons.
We talked for a little over a year and some of our members became impatient. Then someone stepped in to suggest a couple of platforms that we could consider getting started with.
One of those platforms was Lemmy. None of us knew, at that time, anything about ActivityPub.
During the Reddit exodus (surrounding the API outcry and blackout), our instance exploded. We were, initially, crippled by the mass amounts of users seeking refuge.
Thankfully, someone stepped in and volunteered hundreds of hours of work to stabilize our instance and refine it further.
After many hours of talks, it became clear to us that our overall goal could be achieved outside of Lemmy/ActivityPub.
Right now, we feel that Lemmy and ActivityPub have downsides that are limiting us from achieving that goal.
I mean, the very fact that you’re asking this on a different instance is kinda your answer.
Beehaw isn’t relevant to the fediverse as a whole. I don’t see there being any downside (to the fediverse) to y’all staying federated, to y’all staying with lemmy as your forum but defederating totally, increasing the instances you’re defederated from, or abandoning the software for anything else.
Don’t take that wrong, I’m glad someone is willing to try the experiment y’all are doing, it’s a beautiful thing. It’s just that beehaw has never been relevant to the rest of lemmy. That was never the goal (as you said). I have an account there that I rarely use because it isn’t really part of the fediverse at all. Beehaw is its own thing that might as well not be connected.
I dunno that it’s a good use of resources to try a new forum solution, when lemmy is viable for that currently, but that’s a different subject than what you’re asking.
And, since your goals don’t include being a kind of example, nor existing as a beacon on the fediverse for people of like mind to find, I would say just defederate totally.