• 1984@lemmy.today
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    11 months ago

    Yeah we also have money to handle if something surprising happens, but somehow it doesn’t help her worries either.

    It’s not every day she worries, but when she does, it’s a bit exhausting to listen to, specially since there isn’t any action to take to fix it.

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      11 months ago

      Yup, we have the exact same problem.

      I’ve found, “I don’t know, let’s look into it” to be pretty effective at switching from worrying to problem solving, and as we go, my SO will usually get over the worrying and apologize for being dramatic. It doesn’t always work, but maybe it’s worth a shot.

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        11 months ago

        Yeah you are right, that works for me too. I guess what she really wants is someone to just listen and be supportive, and not necessarily solve the problem (since it can’t be solved also).

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          11 months ago

          Sometimes they want to be validated, sometimes they want to be assured that it’s going to be okay. And I’m bad at telling which is which.