• bionicjoey@lemmy.ca
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    10 months ago

    IDK, I’m dating a girl from mainland and she isn’t very materialistic I don’t think.

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      I don’t think you can really generalize based off race/location. American culture lends itself to being extremely materialistic, but plenty of people from the US find it disgusting.

      It’s entitled rich people. It’s always entitled rich people. They’re the same everywhere.

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        10 months ago

        Fair enough. And as mentioned elsewhere in this thread a lot of Westerners’ exposure to mainlanders would be international students who are already going to be selected from the wealthier Chinese people.

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      Sounds like your girlfriend might be studying here with a student visa or born here. Typically those girls come from very rich families and their concern is not “How do I use my daughter to make some money” instead, they are more focused on the child’s needs.

      When I say DEEP China. I’m talking about girls that is middle class and below in China.

      I have friends that had to give a million rmb to her family to marry a girl. And do some fucked up shit during the ceremony, like drink foot water.

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        Yeah she’s a PhD student and her parents both had (what I assume would be) good paying careers. That being said, Chinese people are still humans and can have an entire range of experiences and outlooks, regardless of class. But you’re right that certain ideas are more culturally ingrained.

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          Ya, for sure they are elite. Plenty of doctors want to come to America and have zero change. You’re basically dating a 1%er of China. Don’t fuck it up.

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        And do some fucked up shit during the ceremony, like drink foot water.

        Go on…

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          There are these “games” that they make the groom play. Most of which involves giving money to the family.

          Like, doing 100 pushups and if you can’t you pay. Or drinking water that was used to wash your brides’ feet or give money. Most of the other ones are mild like do a sexy dance on a guy friend.